Hello, r/relationships! Here's some background information. My husband and I have been together for three years, married for two. He used to be more romantic when we were dating, but when we got together that dropped off sharply (his job is high stress).
Anyway, our anniversary was yesterday. I have been communicating with him that it would mean a lot to me if he made romantic plans/gestures, as I usually do that. Previously, for our anniversary, and for most holidays, he'd buy me a plush, no dinner, nothing, just a plush and a card, but I told him several times that I wanted something romantic like I do for him (I've done the whole candlelit dinner thing, have tracked down gifts he really wanted, like vintage band merch, etc.). So now that he was back from a long work trip, I anticipated something nice for our anniversary. We literally had this conversation regarding love languages and romance a week ago exactly.
He invited our friend over for the weekend (rather, his friend), who was having roommate issues on Friday. I thought he would just sleep over, so I didn't say much. I worked Saturday morning, and when I got back the friend was still there (I work until the mid-afternoon on weekends). I took my husband aside and asked him if this is all that he planned. I did not yell and remained measured. He apologized and I just told him that it was okay and that I was going to take a nap, because I got up early for work.
I heard him and his friend leave. After about fifteen minutes, he comes back, then into my room with two donuts on a plate and one of those Starbucks drinks you can buy at Walmart or something, with a card. He said that he had this hidden in the house since last night, and that he was going to give me this in the evening. He also said that this evening he had planned with his friend to sing me a romantic song with his friend accompanying on guitar (I feel awkward Happy Birthday sung to me, let alone being serenaded in the company of a man I hardly know).
I really feel like he pulled the donuts and Starbucks thing out of his ass and that this was his attempt to be romantic after I reminded him that it was our anniversary. Am I wrong in feeling this way? I really need an outside perspective.
TL;DR - Husband gave me underwhelming gift for anniversary, seemed to forget it. Am I in the wrong for feeling upset/sad over it?
Submitted January 03, 2021 at 06:10PM by PotatoNo4995 https://ift.tt/356VmZv
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