Hey,
Im 25m, she's 24f and we've been together for over 2 years, we also live together for several months now. Over the course of the relationship I believe my gf got more and more controlling.
It started off innocently, she was a little jealous about certain girls, but it was nothing unbearable. But it has gotten much worse. She started to control whom I follow and like on IG. She was making snarky remarks how I always like every photo of every our friend (we've been on a college course where like 80% of ppl are girls) moments after its posted. She was insulted by me following this semi-celebrity Ring Girl from mma federation I watch and made me unfollow her. (this I can understand, she did post tasteful yet sometimes revealing content). She then was insulted by me following girl I used to like years ago (we've never dated and don't talk anymore) and made me unfollow her. To me it was a little much - I've made it obvious I don't like her anymore for ages now, and I follow her out of sheer curiousity. On a sidenote, she also followed her, also out of curiousity. Also, she followed her ex fiance's account. When confronted she unfollowed him, but I can't recall her ever explaining why she is so upset about me following a girl I once liked when she follows a dude she was actually engaged with.
It has gotten worse and worse. She questioned why I follow certain people she doesn't know, like friends from high school, work or that one girl my squad used to play CS:GO with. One time I posted a photo of my cat, one girl (highschool friend) commented it with heart emoji, and it was enough to upset my gf. She checked her profile and pretty much grilled me about who this girl is and why do I like nearly all her photos. "Friend from high school" didn't seem good enough for her.
Same goes for messenger. I can see her being upset whenever my phone vibrates. She often asks who is texting me and if its a girl - she easily gets upset. We nearly broke up because I text too often with certain friend from highschool (no romantic history WHATSOEVER). How often is that you might ask? Around once a week. Once a week with female friend whom I know for nearly 10 years is too much for a guy in a relationship.
On top of that, she is upset that I refuse to let her check my messenger history whenever she feels like it. She claims she only wants to know I'd be cool with it, she doesn't actually wanna do it. Well, after an episode when she checked my phone without permisson while I was in the toilet (long time ago but still), I am not so convinced.
IRL she also presents behaviors of sort but I won't get into it cause letter limit.
I really don't like her controlling behavior, it makes me feel untrusted and undervalued.
Is this sort of behavior normal? How can I/should I deal with her control issues?
tl;dr My gf is overly controlling my social media activity
Submitted January 25, 2021 at 06:32AM by Throwawa5ta5 https://ift.tt/3okzYqu
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