So I’ve (22F) had this friend (22F) for around eight years. Throughout this time she has been single. I started dating my boyfriend (22M) two years ago. He is also friends with this girl and has been for around four years.
They’re very close as friends (really close) and I’m fine with this but as soon as we got together she was asking me lots of questions about our sex life and just really private things. I didn’t answer these questions out of respect for my boyfriend. I also thought it was strange she was asking me these questions about one of her best friends (my bf).
Me and my boyfriend were hanging out, he was showing me a photo on his phone and her messaged popped up on the screen “so, what does doggy feel like?” I was shocked that she would ask him this, like why was she so invested in our sex life? He told me she had asked him loads of questions, and they were even sharing their sexual experiences (she has none at all, she’s a virgin) but it was just my boyfriend sharing. He told her I didn’t want to do anal, or send nudes, and he even told her that his balls were getting bigger??? She now calls him big balls and references it in their conversations. I found all this out by scrolling up through their messages. I’m so uncomfortable with this. He also used to have a crush on her and had asked her out multiple times but she turned him down. I feel like they’re only friends as she likes the male attention and maybe he feels like he still has a chance at getting with her?
When they hang out it’s usually until around 11pm and I receive zero messages from him throughout that whole time. A little communication would be nice. She got a boyfriend a few weeks ago and it’s non stop conversations about sex between her and my bf. I mean, she is constantly talking about sex. I know it wouldn’t be right to talk to my bf’s friend if she wasn’t my friend too, so I feel like I’m justified in bringing it up with her that her conversations are bordering on inappropriate and I wish she’d stop. My only problem is I’m afraid she’ll tell our friends that I have trust issues, but it’s getting to the point where every time my boyfriend and I are just chilling out, she’s messaging him (and he’s replying) about, for example, the amazing morning sex she had, or the trouble she has with deepthroating.
Like am I losing my mind here? I have two people in my life telling me these are normal conversations to have with friends but are you joking?? She’s non stop talking about sex with a guy who used to like her, leading me to believe she’s feeding off the attention. Does anyone have any insights or have they been through the same thing?
I’ve told other friends about this and they’re shocked that I even put up with this. They’re even surprised I’m fine with them hanging out together (and drinking) but I feel like that’s the least of my worries. I mean, who the hell knows what the talk about when they’re together?!
Tl;dr boyfriend and I have a mutual friend who he regularly talks about our sex life to.
Submitted September 01, 2020 at 08:34PM by ThrowRA-annoyingsist https://ift.tt/3jDmyDS
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