Why are statements like “I’m sorry I’m a horrible person” unhealthy?

My (19f) boyfriend (23m) and I have been together for about 6 months now. Occasionally he says things like “I’m sorry I suck” or “I’m sorry I’m a horrible person to be in a relationship with” and other things along the lines of that. I’ve tried talking to him about it and saying it’s unhealthy and to me seems manipulative, but I’m not good at wording why or trying to reason with him why he shouldn’t say these things. Can anyone explain to me why it is wrong so I can talk to him about it with better understanding and put it into perspective for him? Sorry if this is the wrong sub. If you think there’s a better place to post this as well please let me know. Thank you

TLDR; why are self deprecating statements toxic?

Submitted September 30, 2020 at 09:36AM by alynneruddick https://ift.tt/33h4vy4