5 years ago, my (26/F) fiancé (28/M) ‘left me at the altar’, he now wants a second chance. Should I give him one?

The night before our wedding my fiancé called me to tell me he was ending our 3-year relationship because he didn’t want to get married. I was devastated but my family helped me get through it. He tried to come see me a week after to explain himself, but I refused to see him and my dad kicked him out. We haven’t spoken for 5 years until he reached out to me three months ago.

We spoke and he explained his side of things. He claimed he never wanted to get married so soon but he felt a lot of pressure from my extended family to propose. He said they had been harassing him constantly to ‘legitimize’ our relationship. This is believable because that side of my family are weird and think dating is scandalous and you shouldn’t even look at a boy until your wedding night. He said that on the night before our wedding he became so overwhelmed by the idea of being someone’s husband and at the thought of having to provide for a family he knew he had to call it off because he knew our marriage would’ve ended in resentment. He apologized and asked if we could be friends.

Fast forward to three months later and we’re getting along great. We video chatted a lot during the lockdown and now that things are starting to open up we were making plans to hang out again. Then, he asked me last week if I was willing to give him a second chance and things soured. I told him I need to think about it but I’ve been avoiding his calls and texts since.

I’ve explained what happened to some of my friends and family and I’ve been given mixed advice. The majority think I should say no and cut contact with him again but my sister, who was one of the most vocal about how much of a scumbag he was, is telling me to give him a chance and to see where it goes.

How can I figure out if he’s being genuine and doesn’t just want to mess around until he finds someone else? If this was you, would you give him a second chance?

TL;DR – my fiancé dumped me the night before our wedding. 5 years later, and after three months of talking, he now wants me to give him a chance.

Submitted September 02, 2020 at 01:00AM by throwrajilted https://ift.tt/2EH2fXD