Backstory: we married very young after knowing each other for less than two years. While we were dating he had some emotional affairs and ignored it. Back in late November/early December I found dozens and dozens of photos of naked women saved on his phone. He has an addiction to porn that was disrupting our marriage and he always promised me he wasn't looking at it but of course he lied. (Disclaimer: I have nothing against porn, it was just something he was very obsessed with and was unhealthy).
Okay,
Friday was a super tough day at work for me - I was extra emotional that day and a co-worker was being really degrading. I'm very open with my boss and talked with her about the issues I was having. Prior to talking with her, though, I sent some emotionally-charged texts venting about it. I was feeling really worthless and hopeless about my job. I love the work but my co-worker is a bully and i was starting to really think I was worthless.
That was that.
Until tonight, my husband had been overly protective of his phone and I asked to see it. I found screenshots of the texts I sent to him. I asked him why he had them saved and he showed me an email that he sent to my boss, which had those screenshots along with him telling my boss I'm getting "too overwhelmed" with my job and he's concerned.
Again, I'm open with my boss and I had talked to her after these emails were sent (I checked the timestamp). I strive to be professional in my work and was already embarrassed that I was being emotional that day.
I'm furious. I'm not overwhelmed. I get frustrated, but I love my job and he KNOWS that. I'm humiliated, and the smallest bit of trust I had is completely gone. I'm to the point of wanting a divorce, but I won't have any familial support and we have two kids.
Tl:Dr: My husband went behind my back and sent screenshots of texts to my boss and told her I'm overwhelmed with work when he's already broken my trust.
Submitted March 01, 2020 at 07:34PM by Chirpychappers https://ift.tt/3clj9qw
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