This happened last January but I never processed it, it’s been bugging me on the 1 year anniversary so I would like the advice of women and men here. Been with my wife for 9 years, married in 2017. We have two kids 7 and 3. She’s 28 and I’m 36. Anyways in 2016 I bought a house for us and our 3 year old (the other was born in 2017). I can’t describe it but it all hit me at once. I knew my wife had cheated on me in the past for some reason and I wound not let up until she admitted it. It took months but she finally admitted some things. I’m sure there is more (there always is). She admitted that she slept with her ex girlfriend 3 months into our relationship two nights in a row. She admitted that she made out with a random guy while on vacation in Florida and in France. I’d highly doubt just kissing occurred but I’ll never know. So that’s all supposed to have happened the first year and I didn’t know. She got pregnant a few months after the cheating and we had our first kid. I found out she met up with her ex 4 weeks after our first kid was born and again a few month later but she claims nothing happened. Aside for that there’s been random txts and other things that don’t add up but could never really pin it on her. It seems things have subsided over the years with her cheating/lying again, but I’ll never know.
Now for what happens last January. Her best friend was getting married to a woman. We were at the bachelorette party, we had dinner and then karaoke and ended the night at a gay bar. We almost never do drugs but one of the gay guys had coke so he offered me some and I did a little in the bathroom. Then my wife went with him and did a little. She was pretty drunk. They were gone for like 20 mins and I thought nothing of it. They get back to the table we were sitting at. I was sitting next to gay dude and she was sitting on the other side of him. All of a sudden he says “why are you touching my balls?!” Out loud. I looked to my wife and saw her retracting her hand from his crotch area. I asked her what the hell she was doing? And she just looked at me in shock. She couldn’t answer. Just silent. I asked the guy to come to the hallway with me and I said “was she REALLY touching your shit?” And he said “yeah but don’t worry I am gay.” I told him that’s not my concern, it’s the fact that my wife thought it was a good idea to touch someone and in front of my for that matter. I asked him in what way was she touching you “like was it in a sexual manner?” And he said “I don’t know, she probably did it because Uber been touching her tits all night.” Now I didn’t know that was happening. I was with them the whole night and I didn’t see it. So I assume the only time it could have happened was right before them came back from doing blow. Now I’m pissed. I walk up to her and start yelling at her. I got kicked out. She didn’t come with. I was standing outside in disbelief. Sat out there for a few mins and then sweet talked my way back in. But there not in the bar area now they are in the dance floor. I walk up but stay back. I want to see what she’s up to. I find her dancing with that guy and two other gay guys while all the other lesbians cheer them on. I see my wife then reach out and touch his package and then move up and touch him all the way to the chest. I had it in video. I again tell her she’s leaving and all her friend get the bouncer and kick me out. I drive home. She doesn’t get there for 4 more hours. Who the hell knows what happens after that. Days later she would say that she wasn’t touching his balls the first time. She was either giving him the coke back or asking for me. I find that hard to believe since she could have just used her words, tapped him on the shoulder or hell even tapped him on the leg. I find it hard to believe that she just missed and touched his balls. And the fact that she did it again while she didn’t know I was videoing makes it all the much less believable.
Long story short. I’ve been kinda of pushing that whole thing out of my mind all year and it’s starting to come back. I keep thinking about the initial incident. I’d like to hear all of your thoughts on it. I’m pretty much in the camp that she did mean to touch him like that. I put myself in her situation and I’m trying to come up with a motive. Was she trying to get him aroused? Thrill seeking knowing her husband was right there. Was it flirting? Was she trying to let him know she’s down for hooking up. Any help sorting through my troubles would be greatly appreciated. We have therapy on Thursday and I plan on discussing all of this and letting her know I don’t believe her initial excuse. Thank you so much in advance.
TL;DR my wife touched a gay guys penis under the table at a club while I was sitting at the table. Got caught and did it again. What the hell would motivate someone to do this?
Submitted February 20, 2021 at 07:00PM by Imheretooquit https://ift.tt/2ZzUzNt
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