My [28M] girlfriend [27F] of two years had a very early miscarriage from an unknown pregnancy yesterday and didn't tell me until today because I had an important interview this morning.

Hi, everyone. I don't really know how to even respond to this situation because I've never dealt with anything remotely like it, so thank you for reading.

My girlfriend and I have been together over 2 years, and live together. We are both stable and have good paying jobs, and today (edit: typo) I had a very important interview for an opportunity that is one of my biggest goals.

I found out that my girlfriend had a very early miscarriage yesterday from a pregnancy that neither of us knew about. She is on birth control that failed, and woke up yesterday morning in bed with blood stains. We did not think much of it because she has had very strange and irregular periods before. She was also in a lot of cramping pain.

Apparently, while I was studying for my interview she was telling her mom about it and her mom was worried it was a miscarriage, though we did not know she was pregnant and it seemed unlikely with her birth control. So, she made an excuse to go to the store and get a pregnancy test, which she took with her best friend on facetime. Before she left for the store, I could already tell something was wrong. The pregnancy test turned out positive. She went to the ER with her best friend, where it was confirmed she was having a chemical pregnancy.

She got home later and was visibly shaken up. I asked her what was wrong and she told me it was nothing major. My girlfriend has a chronic illness as well, and sometimes doesn't feel well from that, so I thought that's what it was, and she just rested in the bedroom for the rest of the night.

I had my interview this morning, and a little after she told me what had happened. She said she felt really bad for not telling me but she thought it was important to wait until I was done with my thing. She wanted to reassure me that her best friend supported her through it and she waited to tell me after so I wouldn't be stressed for my high-stakes interview.

If she was pregnant and this miscarriage had not occurred, we both would have been very happy. We both have good careers and want to get married and have kids, and have spoken very seriously about these goals, but still planned for a bit into the future. A baby right now would have been an earlier-than-expected but happy surprise.

She is going to the doctor for follow ups and to see what is happening with her birth control, but she's holding it all together right now.

I really just don't even know what I'm supposed to be doing or how to react. I am sad that she miscarried, but I am mostly sad about her having to go through that without me. I know 100% she had no intentions of hiding or hurting me through this, and if it had not been for this interview, we would have gone through the whole thing together.

Right now I am just spending time with her while she rests and we are doing her biggest hobby together at home just to spend quality time together and do things that she and I enjoy. She's asleep right now.

If anyone has any advice I would be very thankful. I never expected this situation to happen and I just want to make sure she feels loved and supported.

tl;dr: my girlfriend had a very early miscarriage (chemical pregnancy) yesterday and did not tell me until today because she didn't want me to be stressed for an interview.

Submitted February 22, 2021 at 12:08PM by Top_Yogurtcloset9985 https://ift.tt/3dJeWjL