Just over a month ago my wife suffered her 4th miscarriage. This was the longest a pregnancy had lasted so far, and up until the miscarriage she kept saying she felt like this was the one that was going to survive. We announced the pregnancy and everything seemed to be going well. When she miscarried we were devastated, and my wife was hit particularly hard. She asked me to wait to tell anyone because she wasn't ready to deal with people talking to her about it yet, and I agreed. She said she wanted to be the one to tell people and she would do it when she felt ready. She still hasn't done it, or allowed me to. I've asked her to see a therapist to help her cope but she says she doesn't need to and she just needs time. When I told her I wanted to tell at least my parents she forbade me from it, saying she wouldn't be able to cope with people knowing. I've tried to be understanding of her emotional distress because this is a very difficult situation, but it's getting a little ridiculous. People are still giving her baby supplies, even buying her gifts, and she's not telling them there's no baby. I found out she's been talking to her friends about baby names etc as if she's still pregnant. I've noticed she's been wearing clothes that hide that she doesn't have a bump. It's gone from having a grace period before she tells anyone about her miscarriage to straight up pretending to be pregnant. I want to set things straight and tell everyone the truth to at least force her to confront the issue but I don't want my wife to hate me or be too distressed.
TLDR my wife is refusing to tell anyone about her miscarriage, let me tell anyone about it, or go to therapy to deal with it. She's pretending to everyone in our lives that she's still pregnant and letting them spend their money on buying her gifts etc thinking she's still pregnant.
Submitted February 20, 2021 at 10:33PM by throwra483847 https://ift.tt/3sfTUNv
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