I told someone I feel uncomfortable with them talking like we're close friends and he guilt tripped me

I hope this is the right subreddit for this.

Okay so I (19 f) play this online game and am on a server on discord to play with others, help each other etc. I really like this game and many people in the community are very nice and help each other out. I was doing a mission with another person and he (apparently 25 m) started writing me on Discord in private. Nothing bad so far didnt think any of it.

After the mission was done he asked if we would do daily challenges together and since he was a lower level than I I just said sure why not. That's when the weird things started to happen.

After like two hours or so playing together (without voice chat cause he said he feels uncomfortable with it which is fine by me) he started asking more private questions. Like where I'm from and how he'd love to meet me one day. (Note it was the first time ever playing together.) I just ignored those first attempts because I didn't want him to feel bad. We continued playing together and a little while later he had to leave.

The day after (yesterday) he told me that he probably wouldn't be able to play much because of uni or something. I told him that's fine and that private life is more important and to have fun. Half an hour later he suddenly joins my session (while I was playing with someone else) and tells me he just made time for me to play. I told him I'm sorry but I am just playing with someone else. He replied that he just made time for me and he didn't play with his friends but wants to play with me. I told him he should play with his friends because I'm busy. After that he told me he'd follow me everywhere and is excited to meet me one day.

That was the point where I told him to stop because that made me uncomfortable. I already told him in a subtle way that I have a boyfriend and am not interested in dating or anything. I also told him I wasn't trying to find friends but just wanted to chill play which wasn't possible if I was under constant uncomfortable feelings because he followed me and wrote stuff.

I told him I was uncomfortable with that and he should please stop with saying things like that. He then proceeded to tell me he made time just for me and he's sad and hurt I don't want to play with him and hurt because I called him mate and reacted kinda cold to him telling me he likes me.

I feel bad for making him feel bad but I also can't enjoy my game with the constant "fear" he'll join my session and posse and stuff. I'm also not really a person to speak up when I'm uncomfortable so telling him how I felt was already hard and I don't believe I will be able to explain it again.

I just got the feeling he doesn't want to get what I'm saying. I already asked my boyfriend for advice but he told me maybe he just wanted to play together and I got his messages wrong. I just don't want to hurt anyone just because I misunderstand stuff.

Did I act right with telling him I feel uncomfortable or was that an overreaction? How do I nicely tell him I'm not really interested in playing with him when he tells such things like liking me or wanting to meet or anything?

TL;DR: A fellow gamer told me he likes me and wants to meet me after three hours of gaming without voicechat. I told him I feel uncomfortable with him saying things like that and he said he felt hurt by that and he made time just for me.

Edit: I decided to cut the contact in hopes that he doesn't make a new account or anything. Thank you all for the advice and help. You're awesome!

Submitted February 21, 2021 at 03:13AM by fantatasticky https://ift.tt/3qJSYk7