My boyfriend and I have been dating for around 9 Months. I've always found it hard to distinguish between being a supportive girlfriend and allowing someone to cross your boundaries. I've never found it easy to let people go.
Recently, i've been feeling unhappy about our relationship with a lot of the following thoughts flowing around my head:
- He doesn't show me love in the way I want to be loved
- He's not serious enough about life for me
- He's emotionally immature and unavailable
I told myself however, that he would grow and "the man that I know he can be" will come to the surface at some point. Just to ignore these small issues, everyone has issues right? No one is perfect. So I've still been pushing to stay together because i'm scared of being on my own again in truth and because we get on pretty well.
However, the realisation came to me tonight that a) if I fell pregnant, I would not want this man to be an example of what a man should be to my daughter and b) I would not allow my daughter to date a man like him. Which only begs the question, what am I doing with this guy then?
Just food for thought for anyone out there struggling to figure out whether you should stay or leave. These 2 questions seemed to open my eyes in a powerful way.
tl;dr Ask yourself 2 questions to know whether to stay with someone for potential.
Submitted January 04, 2021 at 05:51PM by AvenueLane96 https://ift.tt/2L7z0jD
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