I (36m) am in a relationship (with 30f) going on 4 years. We fucked like crazy when we first started dating, 3 or 4 times a day kind of thing, but when we moved in together the frequency dropped to less and less. We talked about it a couple of times over the last few years and both said we’d like to have more sex but after initial attempts it just kept falling away again. Now we only have sex on vacation, and sometimes not even then. It goes about 4 - 6 months between sex now and when we do it’s good... good, not mind blowing, but we both have fun. We normally say “we should do this more” when we’re cuddling after but invariably we don’t. Our relationship is pretty good with lots of cuddles and kisses, lots of fun, good communication, spend a tonne of time together, plenty of love and affection and attention but just no sex. I masturbate a few times a week, and to be honest I find that sorts me out. I’m not sure why but it’s like neither of us can consistently put in the effort to initiate or have sex now. It doesn’t actually bother me that much and having talked about it in the past I’m worried that if we talk yet again we will just repeat that pattern. Maybe this is just it for us, very infrequent sex and that’s how it is? The only reason I am posting is that culturally I think it would be viewed as abnormal? But help me out Reddit, are other people in long term happy relationships with hardly any sex? Or is this broken?
TL;DR Long term relationship with not much sex, and that might be ok, but not sure if this is something other people have found themselves in?
Submitted January 02, 2021 at 04:13PM by maybeiblewit https://ift.tt/3baQxSy
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