My (21m) mom (61F) keeps texting my friends and girlfriend. It’s always been annoying and overbearing but it’s crossed a line. She almost texts some of my friends more than I do. She has never met most of them nor my girlfriend.
I met my gf around a year ago. My mom asked for her number (for “emergencies”, but I knew what would happen). I said no as she and I weren’t dating yet and had really only been talking for 3 or so weeks. My mom proceeded to check my recent followers on Instagram and ask around among them to figure out who she was. Once she figured it out she began texting her. I don’t want this. She has also continued to talk to some of my closer friends she had messaged.
My gf and I have hit the 9 months of dating now and my moms texting of her had ramped up considerably. She almost texts GF more than I do. Mom is overbearing and has began complaining to her and talking about me (little embarrassing childhood moments). I hate it. I told her to stop and she said “at least I won’t be an awful mother in law”. If she keeps going like this she may not get to be a mother in law. She does this same thing with the friends to a lesser degree (some are now very awkward around me as they weren’t close before but this has pushed them away). I’m terrified she will do the same for my gf. She won’t stop. She even emailed my college professor to check up on my grade (I’m doing well in classes but it wasn’t her place to do so (the prof shut her down and alerted me)).
I recently went on a backpacking trip (my phone was without signal) with one of my best friends and she took this as the opportunity to go back and FB message my astranged Highschool Friends to try to arrange days for them to see me and her. I haven’t talked to many of these people in years. I got back and got mad and she said “your friends are my friends too”.
She has done stuff like this since early HS but I wasn’t in a place to stop it nor was it as persistent and aggressive as it is now.
I can’t have any accounts public nor tell her who I see but this makes her cast her net wider.
I can’t do this any more. I don’t want to lose my family over this shit but I need freedom and the ability to have my own life.
TLDR; My mom won’t stop texting my gf nor friends no matter what I do. It’s causing serious difficulty with my relationships.
Submitted January 09, 2021 at 12:46PM by wolferdoodle https://ift.tt/2XsfocI
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