TL;DR: My husband is constantly working and not meeting the needs of me or our two young children. Advice needed!!
My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have two very young children (3 years & 7 months). My husband is the kindest man in the world, which is what I fell in love with. He is a good person and I admire him greatly for this. However, it has often felt like everything else gets put ahead of me and our children. He has absolutely no boundaries with work. He runs a small nonprofit so while he does have a lot of responsibility no human being should be expected to put in the time/energy he is.
He comes home from work around 6:30-7 most nights and as soon as the kids go to sleep (7:30) he gets back to work, most nights he does not come to bed until around 3-4 am. I don't trust him with our youngest child as he rarely is actively engaged and I worry the baby will get hurt (just this week when I asked him to watch the kids so I could shower the baby fell down the stairs because he was on a work call).
He is frustrated about our sex life but I don't feel close to him so don't want to have sex. It feels like he wants to have sex with me and then just go work- like all that matters is his sexual needs.
When I try to communicate with him about my concern over his lack of boundaries with work he tells me he needs me to help him. I have no idea what the hell that means. I am so unhappy around him at this point. I work a full time job as well and while I used to work excessively once we had children that had to change. Multiple times in the past week my husband has just left home to go to work on days off without even having a discussion with me. He'll be on the phone, declare that he's leaving, and go without even saying goodbye to the children.
Help! Any tips on how to communicate this or advice would be appreciated. I am working on getting into couples counseling.
Submitted January 02, 2021 at 08:00PM by PinkEmpowerRanger https://ift.tt/3bb0hw6
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