my boyfriend and i recently moved into his parents old home. i was very weary about the move, because it was his childhood home and i just felt a little out of place moving there. it was extremely cheap to move there so we decided to do it. he reassured me many times that we would make the place our own and i could change whatever i wanted. the parents knew they were going to move out for the past 10 years or so, so they haven’t done any touch ups or renovations at the house in that time. the house is not in great shape, it’s livable but there are a lot of things that are worth fixing. the walls are dirty, the oven doesn’t close all the way, the bathroom doors don’t lock, the gas stovetop only turns on with the help of a lighter, the bathroom vanity is falling apart etc. etc. my boyfriend does not want to change a thing. he says it’s still usable and not worth spending money on. i’m the one who makes the most money, and i’m willing to invest in a place we’re supposed to live in for the next 5 years or so. he says it’s not worth investing in the place he lives in, he wants to put all of his money in the apartments he’s renting out to college students. i get it, it’s more of an investment, but it’s also important to have a comfortable home.
another weird thing is that he’s not this way with his parents new home. he spends hours picking out furniture, decor, lighting, paint etc for their house. he writes them paragraphs full of recommendations whenever they text him asking for his opinion. when it comes to our home that we live in together he does not care at all. hell glance at pictures of things i have picked out and say “whatever is good”, refuses to go to the furniture store with me, etc.
i’ve talked to him about this and all he says is that “it’s not worth ivesting in our house when i can invest in real estate i can rent out instead” even though i’m the only one spending money (and i’m not planning on investing in his real estate endeavors). i’m really getting frustrated and i’m not sure what to do. i don’t want to force him to change anything, but i also don’t want to live in an old home that’s in bad shape when i can afford to fix all of the issues.
tl;dr: my boyfriend does not want me to renovate our home, i’m not sure what to do
Submitted January 09, 2021 at 03:05PM by cblake96 https://ift.tt/2LmrwcC
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