My (24M) girlfriends (24F) mother has touched me inappropriately and flirted with me several times. I’ve told my girlfriend but she always downplays it. What do I do?

I met my girlfriend about 4 months ago. I love her and for the most part I think we have a great relationship. There has just been something that has occurred semi recently that has bothered me. I met her mom about 2 months after we started dating. She is divorced and from what I know she has been seeing someone. The first time we met we just went over to her moms place and had dinner. It was going really well. She was super nice and welcoming. We had many laughs. There was something odd to me though. Many of the comments she was making seemed to me inappropriate and it sounded like she was flirting a lot. Every time she’d say something I’d look over to my girlfriend. She didn’t pay any attention to it or seem to make anything of it. I figured it might just be me and I didn’t want to make anything if it so I didn’t bring it up.

Since then we have seen her mom several other times. I feel like most of those times she has made sexual comments towards me or flirted. Some examples are “thank you for wearing your tight pants when you come to see me.” Or “I can see my daughter is a lucky girl.” She’s even said if I wasn’t so old I’d be jumping on top of you and taking you to my room right now.” There’s been other things but for some reason these are the things that are coming to mind right now. My girlfriend has laughed when she has said some of the stuff, or even agreed. She just seems to think it’s funny and it doesn’t offend her.

I wasn’t going to bring this up if she didn’t care about it, but recently something happened where I figured that I needed to. Usually when we leave I give her mom a hug. This time when I went to do so she gave me a kiss on the cheek and then one on the mouth. I didn’t kiss back as I was super confused. When I was walking away she gave me a tap on my butt as well. Once again my girlfriend was right by when this happened. She didn’t say anything. On our ride home I decided that I finally needed to bring this up. I asked her if she noticed that her mom kissed me on the lips and smacked my butt. She just said yeah casually and asked what the problem was. I told her that this felt inappropriate to me and almost like harassment. I said it seemed like she’s been coming on to me and flirting. She laughed and acted like I was crazy. She insisted that it was just her mom being nice and that it is her sense of humor. I then brought up all of the flirting and dirty comments. She said the same thing about them. She promised that she knew her mom and knows that she isn’t actually trying to hook up with me.

I don’t really know what to think about everything now. I don’t know if I’m taking things too seriously or what. It still seems weird to me. I have no attraction to her mother so I don’t want anyone accusing me of having a fantasy of being with her. I don’t know if I need to talk with her mom or explain to my girlfriend about how I feel again. I don’t want to overreact and cause problems. I also don’t want my girlfriend to discount my feelings and concerns. What should I do?

TL;DR - my girlfriends mom has been flirting with me. My girlfriend promises it’s just her sense of humor. I don’t know what to think.

Submitted January 04, 2021 at 01:18PM by throwasemigo https://ift.tt/3b7IR3C