I [28F] have found living through coronavrius with just one roommate [30F] very hard - looking for advice

I've lived with Sarah for 2.5 years, I really enjoy her company and conversation, we go on holidays together (back in the old days when holidays existed) and generally like living together. She has always had her quirks - OCD about some random things like having doors shut all the time (even when inside) and unplugging every appliance before leaving the house. These things are kind of weird and occasionally irritating but never a big problem, especially when we used to go to work 9-5 and then just hang out in the evenings.

Last year we both went WFH full time and I found it really suffocating (and still do). We are both introverts but I am slightly more extroverted, so I would usually have plans at the weekend whereas she prefers to stay inside and do.. nothing at all. I find that I am never ever alone for even 5 minutes in our flat, and because our bedrooms are next door to eachother, its like I'm in constant conversation. I find it really draining. It's like I am almost tired of using my mouth to speak, I just want to go about my day without it being seen or commented on. If I make food I am asked what it is, if I go on a website on my computer I get asked what I'm buying. I don't know what to do, I feel like a massive ***** but I need some space.

I used to live with 3 other people and I thought that was tough, but oddly living with just one is way more intense. Living in NYC is too expensive for me to live by myself, and even after everything I've said in this post, I do like living with her, I just want it to feel less like a relationship. My friends have tried to invite Sarah out without me and she can't be bothered to go if I'm not there to travel with, I don't know how to say 'please can you go out and do more things without me' without saying that, we both pay rent 50/50 it wouldn't be fair.

Anyone else had this experience?

TLDR - living with one other roommate in a pandemic is intense

Submitted January 09, 2021 at 09:33AM by mambono5555 https://ift.tt/2LCF0AK