My [22f] s/o[30m] has been... he's been really... aggressive lately. He's never raised a finger at me or anything like that. But he's been very... quick to anger or get annoyed. I feel like I'm walking on glass around him.
My mom is going through stage 4 pancreatic cancer, chemo, the whole works right now, and we're all aware that we don't know how much longer she has left. I lost my dad on not-good-footing and I'm not sure I'm ready to lose my mom, so I've been very depressed lately, easily upset, emotional... you get it. And work has been really tearing me down, too. I've been looking into other jobs because I don't know how much longer I can deal with the workplace I'm in right now.
And he's usually very supportive, but when I'm not talking about what's going on with my mom or work, if I bring up my emotions, he's very easy to anger or annoy.
He's been.. making small comments or reacting to certain things certain ways, and they always come off as aggressive. Annoyed. Frustrated.
For example, today he went to put something in the microwave and reach for a plastic bowl. I said to him, "Not those ones, babe. They're plastic, they'll melt. You want the normal bowls we use." I said 'normal' because they're the bowls we use for EVERYTHING. And he just looked at me, gave me an annoyed look and waved his hands in front of him. It's the type of notion that would make you think They're trying to convey "what are you fucking talking about?" And this isn't the first time he's done something like this.
I pointed to the cupboard and he got his bowl out. And he later said "I didn't fucking know what bowls you were talking about." So I said, "then why didn't you just ask that?" And he swears he said "what bowls" but I swear he never did.
And later, I told him that his reaction slightly upset me. He knew I was already emotionally unstable today because more bad news came, and lately whenever I've said that something he's done has upset me, he says "No I didn't upset you, you did it yourself."
And he's just always pushing off my emotions like that. "I didn't make you sad. You made yourself sad."
"I wasn't angry, you made yourself think I was angry." [Under circumstances where he's raising his voice and stomping.]
And every time so far that I've tried to sit him down and get him to understand what I'm saying, he gets further annoyed and brushes it all off. He says he's going to take a nap or do something for a few hours, and then when he messages me again, he acts like nothing happened and like I never said anything. I don't know how to get him to understand things from my side.
Tl;dr tldr; my s/o brushes off my emotions when I bring them up and then acts like I never said anything.
Submitted January 09, 2021 at 12:49PM by GamingGal98 https://ift.tt/3hZrNOz
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