I'm (F32) thinking about ending things with my boyfriend (M33) after more than 3 years living together. I'm at loss about what to do, honestly I've never been in a relationship that long or serious and I have no idea how to break it up.
The main issue here is that he is highly dependent on me. There are other issues but I would need my own blog to go over those. We're both foreigners in our country of residence and foreigners to each others. I moved more than ten years ago, know the language and society fairly well. He's been here for four years but still doesn't speak the language which restricts his ability to find work or study. Although 95% of the population speaks English, he always asks me to do things for him like his taxes, talk to his (former)employer, deal with his healthcare, his school, etc. He's not active at home either, he doesn't know how to cook, how to wash his clothes, I have to nag for him to actually clean something (badly). I'm exhausted. He doesn't show any signs of learning the language or looking for jobs. I got him his former job. I enrolled him at the local university. I book his doctors appointment. All he does is sitting in front of his computer playing video games, yelling and ranting at the screen, watching netflix. I'm actually writing this post after secluding myself from one of his tantrums. He doesn't have family here, only has one good friend. Our flat is mine. He gets help from the state but only because we live together. If I kick him out, he's homless, jobless, pennyless. If I hated his guts that wouldn't be a problem, but I still love the fool.
I don't know what to do. My brain says to breakup, although I do love him. But that would be putting him on the streets and it would be difficult to help him if we're broken up. I don't think he can even fly back home to his parents. Also the idiot calls me the love of his life and his willing to not have children to please my childfree stance, which I'm highly uncomfortable with.
I'd highly appreciate it if anyone has advice or have been through similar situations. Thanks! (Also english is not my native language, sorry if there are mistakes)
TL;DR! I need to breakup with dependent, clueless boyfriend but his dependence on me makes it difficult. Advice anyone?
Submitted September 23, 2020 at 04:43AM by EliOnTheHill https://ift.tt/2G3oBT8
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