Me(M18) and my GF(F17) have been together for about 10 months now and her parents have been getting increasingly more manipulative and controlling over the past couple months. How would you feel if you were being accused of something you’ve never done?
Location: USA, Oklahoma
Backstory here: GF had her phone taken back in April because her parents noticed that a ton of money had all the sudden gone missing from their bank accounts. They took the entire household’s devices and began searching them for a culprit. Along with getting help from multiple IT people to help change their accounts and secure everything. Eventually it stopped for about 3 weeks, all the sudden her dad looks at his bills and it somehow “all makes sense and it has to be her!” My GF’s phone was actually a gift from her grandmother and is on her plan. The grandmother has asked them to return the phone MULTIPLE times and her parents have consistently failed to send it back. At the current moment the phone has been deactivated and filed as stolen therefore rendering it a paperweight.
Her step mother (F40’s) had a stroke around this time last year and isn’t the same person she used to be. She could be happy one day and feel like someone is out to get her the next.
Her father (M40’s) will CONSISTENTLY choose his wife over any of his children and takes anything that she says as undeniable truth.
Ever since April her parents have been getting increasingly more and more controlling and accusing. Accusing her for things she has no idea about and never EVER explaining what it is because “you should know what it is we’re talking about.” She’s basically getting punished for something she never did. She has no idea or reason to hack into bank accounts and steal money. While her drug dealing brother (M18) is seen as an angel child and can do no wrong and a her juvenile delinquent cousin (M17) are completely free to do whatever they like (excluding having a device)
Initially we were able to figure out a way to communicate through PS4 party chat but they confiscated that two months ago and now the only way we see each other is when I take her to work in the morning and occasionally when I can take her home. She herself has been surprised at how harsh they are being. She has NEVER seen them get like this and doesn’t know what they are capable of anymore.
I love her so very much and I can see the mental toll this is taking on her. They are getting to the point where it is going to interfere with academics and extracurricular activities. She wishes to go to college but has been unable to sign up for any ACT/SAT tests due to her parents. In fact, they have failed to pay any fees ($2000) for her extracurricular activities and she has built up enough money to pay off her debt but has no way to do at this time.
She has made a plan to run away and live with another guardian nearby because she is just so tired of living a life of going home to do absolutely nothing and getting in trouble for it. No joke, her father actually got angry at her for having her door closed because “she never asked permission to do so.” Along with an innumerable amount of other things that she is “causing to happen to their bank accounts and phones.” The story of why she is in trouble changes everyday leading me to believe that they want to control everything she does. However, she doesn’t want that guardian to get into any legal trouble if they happen to ACTUALLY care about her and call the police.
I already have all of her important personal belongings and some of her clothes. We are both ready to get her out of that house and back into a healthier home environment but we are worried as to what her parents could do. They could either not give a damn and let her be or go absolutely batshit and we have a much worse situation on our hands.
Over the past months this situation has devolved from an actual financial problem to what we see as a way for the step-mom to control and manipulate what my GF can and cannot do. They show no signs of stopping this behavior and have shown that they will physically abuse someone if they don’t get their way. Her sister (F14) got into a disagreement with the step mother and got slapped. She then told the step mother, “DO NOT TOUCH ME” and she proceeded to continue to slap and verbally abuse her sister for quite a while.
I cannot reiterate this enough, this is taking a serious mental toll on my GF not being able to interact with anyone and being locked in a damn house for multiple months with minimal contact with loved ones and friends.
Frankly, she and I are completely done with whatever they think they are doing here and are sick of this. The only time we have been able be around each other for a whole day was on her birthday about a week ago. Even her grandmother thinks they have completely lost it and are using the phone and mind games to control her.
This has been tough on our relationship but I want to stick with her because she is the best fucking woman I have ever met and I love her with my entire being. I’ve stuck around with her this long and if we get through this we will only be stronger together.
Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated as we do not currently have access to a family lawyer or someone who could help
Tl;dr: gf is being accused of something she’s never done and her parents are consistently antagonizing and punishing her for stealing money and hacking their phones
Submitted July 18, 2020 at 12:36AM by Hawkotic https://ift.tt/2Wy3Ww3
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