I am almost 18 and my 18 y/o fiancé passed two weeks ago today.
TL;DR: I have been in a relationship with fiancé since we were 13, I lived with him when I turned 14 as I cared for him and our relationship was intense. He passed two weeks ago today in the ICCU as a medical decision was made to turn his life support off as he suffered a cardiac arrest.
I apologise if this is not the correct place for this post but I have posted in a few other subreddits and I would just like some kind words of comfort and I feel no one else takes my relationship seriously because of our age.
I am 17 turning 18 in a few weeks, on my fiancé’s 18th birthday, the 6th of may,he was sent into hospital with stomach pains, he was discharged and i looked after him from the 6th to 9th and on the 9th of may 2021 he suffered a cardiac arrest in the bathroom, I walked into him around 4am as I just felt I needed to check on him and he just collapsed, they got his pulse back and he was rushed to ICCU and on life support machines from the 9th until the 11th. On the 11th of may they decided he wasn’t getting better and a medical decision had to be made to turn his machines off. They have done a digital autopsy of his abdomen and they still could not find the root cause of the cardiac arrest and now his funeral will go ahead without us knowing what happened to him. There’s a lot of information im not sure how to put on here, the hospital had failed him on the 6th of may and left him to die at home. We have known each other since we were 11 and we have been together for the past five years, our relationship was more like a full marriage as I lived with him. Now I understand why our relationship was so intense, we were on limited time. I feel broken and I don’t know to have a life without him. Everyone says I’m only young but it hurts more we didn’t make it to our adulthood together, I told him in the ICCU he will get better so we can live our future together. I cared for him since the start of our relationship as he suffered from severe mental health issues, autism and ADD, I just wanted to see him get better. I’m just looking for some support I feel very alone but because of my age people think our relationship wasn’t serious, I feel I am missing what made me, me.
I have not put much details about how ill he was, I’m struggling to put everything into words. He was throwing up non stop I tried giving him ice chips to hydrate him. He was constipated and told it was just an IBS attack so I gave him a senna which is a natural laxative to help him go the toilet, I felt so helpless I have messages and searches asking people and looking for advice on what I could do more. We believed the hospital that he was going to get better from his IBS but it led to a cardiac arrest which they still do not know the cause of. Im still in shock but also denial and acceptance at the same time. I also posted this into the grief support Forum but I’m not sure if that is the correct place and I would just like to vent at the same time.
Submitted May 25, 2021 at 04:22PM by Beautiful_Ad_3258 https://ift.tt/3bVvFhP
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