My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years and have been absolutely in love and happier than ever up until a couple months ago. He has this friend, I’ll call her K, who he’s known for 10 years and they are in a friend group together. For the first 3 years of the relationship they would talk/meet up every couple months but that was it. I was always invited but turned it down bc I think it’s important for people to have friends separate from their SO. Anyways, she had been in a relationship about the same duration as ours, but her and her bf broke up a couple months ago. Since then she texts, calls, facetimes my boyfriend almost every time I’m with him which leads me to believe it’s every day. She asks him (and their friend group of 2 other girls) to hang out every weekend. I’m sometimes invited but sometimes not. And if he gets too drunk he’ll sleep at her house with the other girls. This was a red flag to me, but since we’ve never had a problem before I kind of let it slide. He invited me out with them all so I came with my friends and I noticed that she was flirty and touchy with him. She always invites me back to her house and it seems like she goes out of her way to include me, but then still requires so much of his attention. Little things happened like they ended up sitting next to each other a lot and she left the room twice and he went looking for her. He went out of state with one other friend to visit her and stayed more days than were originally planned. He posted a pic with her before we were dating and the caption talked about her putting him in the friend zone. 3 YEARS later (while we were dating) she went back and commented on the post again. I asked him what the deal was after the night of flirting and he said it’s super platonic and he asked if I may have been looking for it as he does not believe it was happening. He also joked about it a couple days later. He’s never cheated on me or lied to me and has been very straight up with his feelings so I don’t think he’d lie about this. Also she’s single so he could easily break up with me and date her. It just feels like neither of them are respecting my relationship with him and it’s making me very sad. I’m also a notorious over thinker about worst case scenarios so I truly don’t know what to think. What I need is some objective advice on what it sounds like is going on and maybe how you would proceed? I love him so much and don’t want to break up but I just don’t know anymore.
TLDR: boyfriend and his girl friend are too close for my comfort
Submitted May 26, 2021 at 11:42AM by shaiaajhssbendfchxud https://ift.tt/34lnTtx
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