UPDATE: I think that my (22F) boyfriend (23M) is jealous or intimidated or resentful about my academic success

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/j2ne1l/i_think_that_my_22f_boyfriend_23m_is_jealous_or/

TL;DR - broke up with bf and happy in a new relationship, thanks reddit! But I still want to be friends with ex-bf but I'm not sure if this is actually healthy

I just wanted to thank everyone who made me realize this relationship wasn't what's best for me. We broke up not too long after this post, but we stayed on good terms and still text each other.

I actually moved on quite quickly, I almost felt a sense of relief when the relationship was over. I think having a boyfriend who was not supportive of my academic career was hurting me more. Right now, I'm dating someone in my Master's program who is very supportive of my studies, and never makes me feel bad when I'm a little too busy with work, I'm in a very happy place.

As for him, as far as I know, he hasn't met anyone new yet. He even texted me last month that he found PhD opportunities for him in the US as well, even the same school as where I told him I wanted to do my PhD. Although just 3 months ago, he was so sure he does not want to come to the US for his PhD, and I had to give up my dreams and join him in Europe for our relationship to continue. I'm not sure why he suddenly changed his mind after we broke up, if it's just a coincidence he found things or not...

He also hinted at the possibility of us getting back together, but now that I've left this relationship, regardless of logistics I just don't think we were a good match. I needed more independence and support, he needed more attention. I already told him last month that I had moved on and found someone new. Today, he told me he's doing an internship in Denmark, where I'm originally from and I was planning to go for the summer if safe to travel, and that he'd love for us to meet there.

Do you think I can keep a healthy friendship with my now ex-boyfriend, and continue to talk to him and potentially hang out? Or is this maybe giving him false ideas, or preventing him from moving on as well?

Submitted January 25, 2021 at 06:07PM by permanganatemno4 https://ift.tt/2LUM38J