Social media is becoming an increasingly large problem between me [25m] and my girlfriend [25f]. I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable or if my opinions are valid, need advice.

So my girlfriend and I dated for 1.5 years and recently took a little time for space (about 2 weeks). Since getting back together social media is becoming an ever increasing problem, specifically Instagram. I personally don't use social media that much. I might make a post once every 6 months maybe. I've had my account since 2013 and only have 18 posts total. She on the other hand uses it incessantly. over 1500 posts all together. This to me is not a problem, I personally think that anyone can post as much or as little as they want on Instagram, it doesn't affect me. The issue is that she is constantly bringing up my usage of Instagram.

In the 1.5 years that we dated, I made a few posts with her. I made 4-5. I also made no posts in between of anything else because I don't really like posting photos, so the "once every 6 month" post would be of her and I. She however really doesn't like this and brings it up constantly, saying I don't post her enough. She says she feels hidden and likes to be posted by her partner and how "we take all these photos and you post none of them". I don't get how she feels hidden, if you went to my Instagram page the only posts you'd see going back over a year are of her and I. I also would post stories of her and I out at restaurants/bars/etc.

During the time we were taking space, I went out with one of my close friends who I hadn't seen in a while. I posted a photo with him and she ended up bringing it up saying how she thought it was a personal attack that I hardly posted her during the relationship but took the first opportunity to make a post with my friend. My response was that there was no intention behind it, I just wanted to post a photo with my friend, but this was rejected.

There was another big issue that I hadn't posted her since we got back together, so I hade a nice slideshow with a nice caption, and then I made a separate post with a group of my friends because it was the first time we were all together. One of my best friends liked the group photo, and not the one of me and my girlfriend, and she brought it up for several days after saying how "it says more about him, i went out of my way for him and he disrespected me, you shouldn't be okay with this" until I basically told her she was blowing it out of proportion and its not disrespectful to not like a photo.

This morning, which is what prompted my post. She brought up how I didn't comment on her most recent Instagram photos. One was a selfie and one was a slideshow of her new job. She was upset that I didn't comment on the job one congratulating her and saying I'm proud of her. I told her I said that to her in person (and I have, a lot) and she was still saying that it would have just been nice and how I still could have commented.

I'm not sure if I need to be more firm on my stance on Instagram or if I'm being inconsiderate. I understand wanting to be posted but I felt like I was posting enough. She always says "oh look at my Instagram, I make a lot of posts of you..." but again she uses it a lot more. She's probably posted 100 photos total since we started dating and I'm in probably 15-20. I've made 7 posts total since we started dating and she's in 5 of them. Going back on my account I made a post for last Christmas, Valentines Day, 4th of July, Anniversary, New Years 2021 with a few extras. I also do make stories occasionally when we go out. It's just becoming bigger and bigger problem and I'm not sure if I'm handling it right.

To anyone who comments, I don't care about being right, I just want to know what the right course of action is. If I'm wrong I'm always willing to change how I act.

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TL;DR: My girlfriend keeps bringing up Instagram saying I don't post her enough amongst other issues like not commenting enough or my friend not liking a certain photo. I don't make posts a lot but do still make posts of her, she occupies pretty much 1/4 of the total pictures on my account, but still says it's not enough. Not sure if my opinion on social media is valid or not

Submitted January 09, 2021 at 08:49AM by ayysizzle https://ift.tt/38wJQsC