We’ve been together for 8 years, married for 2, and has one 2.5 years old son. He has autism. My husband has high functioning autism(aspergers) as well.
I’ve noticed that our son has autism early on since he always did weird hand gestures around his eye (stimming) since he was a 6 months old baby. I’ve told my husband about it but he brushed it off saying I was overreacting. I’ve reached out to early intervention when my son turned 14 months and they diagnosed him with global delay. Since then he was officially diagnosed with autism. Im also a former nurse and if I don’t know anything I try to learn and research about things as much as I can.
I was talking to my husband today that I joined autism group and found out that a lot of kids there had mri and ct scan and blood work done to rule out any other neurological issues that might resemble autism, and maybe we should do that for our son.
Well my husband of course says “has anyone told you you worry too much” And I tried to explain why people have it done. And he says our son is fine, and that he never heard of people doing that.
I just lost my temper after hearing that because we do 4 different therapies a week (10hours total per week) for my son and he has improved so much and I felt like husband literally ignored all my efforts. Like if I listened to my husband, my son wouldn’t have found out that he needs therapy, you know? And I just want to make sure our son is ok and I want to do everything we can do help our son and basically my husband just shits on my effort. He never ever researched about autism or how to deal with it, what kind of therapy my son would need, etc. He made zero efforts. It’s always me.
Anyway I’m so sick and tired of my husband saying I’m overreacting all the fucking time. His family has been not super nice to me and little bit racist(I’m korean American, husband is white) and whenever I point it out he always defended his family saying I’m overreacting, and later he admits that his family was being racist.
I feel like our marriage is failing because I don’t feel listened to and even when my husband says he’ll try to improve its back to the same shit over and over again.
tl;dr: hubby doesn’t fucking listen to me says I’m overreacting all the time
Submitted January 08, 2021 at 05:52PM by cutebabies0626 https://ift.tt/3s7ElrQ
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