Apologies if this isn’t the right subreddit for this, I couldn’t really think what would be!
I’m 24F and married (24M), we both want to have children at some point in the next few years but there’s no urgency about it. I’ve been thinking more and more recently about going straight to adoption as a first option, rather than getting pregnant. I’m worried that my reasoning for this might be selfish. The long and short of it is that I don’t really want to be pregnant or give birth - I don’t want my body to change forever, I don’t want more stretch marks than I already have, loose skin, wider hips, saggier or bigger boobs, not to mention other possibilities like bad teeth, thinning hair and a weak pelvic floor.
We’re in the UK and as far as I can tell (admittedly my research has just been a quick google search, so if anyone has any recent experience please do correct me) the process is nowhere near as expensive as it is in the US.
Obviously I’m aware that adoption isn’t selfish, if anything, adopting a child in need of a home seems far less selfish than making a whole new one, but I can’t shake the feeling that my motivations (basically - so that I can have the most conventionally attractive body that I can for as long as possible) IS inherently selfish. I’m really interested to hear thoughts on this!
Tl;dr: is it selfish to adopt without even trying to conceive naturally in order keep a conventionally attractive body
Submitted January 25, 2021 at 09:11AM by Mothgal123 https://ift.tt/3sS1TS2
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