I (30 F) told my (37 M) husband that I want a divorce. Fighting now to stick to it.

I (30 F) have told my husband (37M) I want a divorce. How to do I stick with it?

We got together when I was 21. Ten years has been overall pretty good. I don’t think I’ve been happy for a while. I have always been the type to be so vested in friends, work and hobbies. He always made me his whole world. Every time I felt like I should do this I have backed down for various reasons.

I came to the realization more recently that I just want a different life than he does. My career is critically important to me whereas his isn’t. I don’t think I want kids - when I had previously been open to it. He does want kids.

I told him last night. There have been a lot of tears and heartache and I know he just wants me to stay and say we can work on it. Even if he had to concede to being “ok” with everything he doesn’t want. I don’t want that for him, but my heart breaks watching him hurt.

Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated. Also, any help on staying strong.

TLDR: told husband I want a divorce but I’m struggling to push forward as I watch him hurt and want me to change my mind.

Submitted October 25, 2020 at 04:54AM by Knoxsparrow https://ift.tt/2HF6sfy