I think the guy I’m seeing was stalking me before I met him, and I am afraid that something is going to happen

I’m a 22 F, this is a 25 year old M. Is/was he stalking me? Is this something I should be concerned about?

It’s 2:49 a.m, I haven’t slept for a day and so this may sound incoherent and annoying, as well as choppy because it’s sections from notes I’ve taken on my phone throughout. But here is the backstory:

Basically, I was fostering a little animal, put him up in hoobly to find him a home. Some guy reached out, interested. We communicate back and forth and he asks me what cage I recommend and immediately buys it. By the way, I noticed throughout this that he was texting me like too flirtatiously, asking for my Snapchat to send future pictures of the animal, I was not sure why? Like how could he know who I was— the ad was anonymous, it felt odd. He gave me his Instagram, which I did not follow.

I asked for proof he bought the cage and he sends me a receipt. On this receipt was also his address. The next day, when I asked him if it had been delivered (amazon), he goes “it was delivered to my family who lives like fifteen minutes away” (please keep this in mind).

Later that day he picks up the animal and seems nice! He starts communicating with me a ton, I follow him on Instagram, he updates about the pet and whatever. We eventually decide to hangout, but he’s extremely weird about it. He INSISTS It be at my apartment, even though I really wanted to see the pet. At one point before he hangs out with he tells me his roommate has COVID, and that he himself has tested negative (?).

He also mentioned to me that his roommate hated the animal, wanted it gone, given back to me, all this, and then said he convinced the roommate to let him keep it.

Anyway, he came over, helped me with schoolwork, we hung out and it was fun. We flirted.He ended up staying the night on my couch. The next morning he’s helping me with homework and all that and I take a shower for like 45 min. I cannot remember if my laptop was left open in the main area of my apartment.

After I get ready and want to study more, he suggests we go to his apartment— but he was very hesitant? It was strange. On our way there he admits to me he lied about his roommate having Covid, because I questioned him about it. he didn’t explain why.

We go from my apartment to his apartment, and I notice it’s the same address as the receipt. This is weird to me, because he said that was his family’s address. His family, that he had mentioned to me while talking the night before, lives many, many states away from here in his hometown.

About 30 minutes after going to his apartment, he, with fake shock, goes “oh I forgot my laptop at yours”— his reaction was blatanly fake. I knew he was lying.

Another thing, my apartment is tiny. We also had spent 45 minutes making sure we had everything to go— because I had a lot of books and such I needed. He only brought one book, pencils, and his laptop— there is no way he could have accidentally forgotten it.

He loitered for a while, seeming to suggest we go back to mine to get it? It was strange. Then he goes “it’s okay I do have a spare one,” and has a whole nother laptop?

We do schoolwork for like six hours, I meet his roommate and ask about the pet and his roommate never said anything about the pet and likes him, never asked for him to give the animal away? Later, he admitted to me that he was lying about the pet because for a second he wanted to give him back to me. I was so confused because he signed a contract stating he wanted to be his forever home, and bought him hundreds of dollars of toys and such. He told me it was a moment of panic and that he would never do that though, and I have noticed he loves animals.

He was being extremely creepy and overbearing while I studied, constantly looking at me, I just felt smothered.

At one point he gave me a couple of little gummy candies saying they were CBD or weed or whatever gummies, which they were, but I got so high when I asked him to make sure I wouldn’t, like I did not feel fully coherent. I had a horrible pounding headache and went home and it’s been 3 days and I still feel it and it’s awful. I don’t know if that showed him violate a boundary but it felt weird.

I finally left to go and I get back to my apt. While there I go to my room and text him being like “damn I forgot my phone charger”. He immediately Ubers over and gets the charger and his laptop. I noticed the laptop was hidden beneath the couch cushion? I just don’t get how it would’ve gotten there. I thought nothing of it really, I actually thought it was sweet for him to come get the charger, and he left.

Over next few days he’s just texting me and calling me a ton even unanswered, assuming he’s coming over. I did like him at first so I flirted a little but I started to just feel weird about everything. I had the worst feeling in my head about him couldn’t get rid of it, something so anxious that I have NEVER felt before. He also would say things that made me cringe, “I can wait to watch you eat pasta” b/c we talked about going to eat together and like “I love watching you while I study” and I just think the word watching is so bizzare because who even thinks to use that word in that context I don’t know.

The next two days, he was pushy all over again about hanging out. He was also sending me a lot of memes that videos and being like “me as a dad”— and getting extremely panicked every time I didn’t text him. It was creeping me out. At one point, after hours of me not andwering, he was like “I’m not allowed to go home for thanksgiving.” He knows my family lives nearby, I don’t know if was inviting himself?

He constantly FaceTimed me even though I wouldn’t pick up, then would guilt me. At one point, I got a weird phone call from his number than directly back to mine. Weird alarm bells set off in my head.

(Other shit; • he’s told me he like gets revenge on everyone who’s wronged him, all his ex’s were evil— cheated on him with entire teams of athletes, etc.)

I told him I wanted to slow things down, to be normal and I didn’t want to see him everyday yet. He said he understood and I actually started to like him again thinking maybe he just really liked me. The thing is, it just did not feel that way. Minor things were setting off huge alarms, I felt and still feel so dramatic.

I forgot to answer his text last night, and this morning, until the afternoon. When I tell him this he goes “Hey bug. I ended up getting so tired from staying up that I smashed my head and ended up in the ER. I’m going to get some more sleep and text you after.”

I felt this was a lie, something about it felt like a lie, and for me it was enough. When I finally made it clear to him I did not want communication, he contacted me on all forms of social media constantly. He also began calling me incessantly. At one point, he had someone text me “(his name) says you can have the animal.”

I was not responding.

I noticed that all of his calls would come up as my own number/contact, I would decline them and it would say six missed calls from (myself). I have a service that texts me whenever I get a voicemail, so I was receiving texts notifying me that a voicemail from him (his actual contact) had been sent to my number, however, my inbox was completely empty.

He would also call me on *67, and I would unmask them with a service, and his number still showed up as mine?! I tested it with several other contacts, and this did not happen, their voicemails also were delivered to my phone.

My best friend called me, and told me that halfway through, the ringing changed, and she was promoted with automated instruction to type the number she would like to leave the message to.

A family member called me to test this, and noticed that the phone call started timing immediately (the timing starts when the call is picked up), even while it was still ringing.

I have a gut wrenching feeling constantly, and I don’t really know how this is possible. I’ve checked my phone for call forwarding and everything. Is this even possible?

He continued to contact me on all platforms Please help. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I genuinely believe he did something— but I just don’t understand how it would be possible? I feel watched all the time, but I don’t know why— I live in a secure apt building— but I am worried— could he have planted something in my apartment? Is that even possible?

Sorry this is long and badly written, it is the middle of the night and I have been awake for days. I have never felt random stress like this in my life and there does not seem to be a reason for it. I’m a 22 year old female who lives alone in the middle of a city, I am getting behind on schoolwork because I am afraid but there doesn’t seem to be much of a reason for it.

I cannot make the feeling go away, even though he has finally stopped trying to contact me on all social media. I feel weird and strange and deep anxiety. I’ve had crazy boyfriends and situations like that, but this deep panic I feel constantly is disturbing my life. I feel I cannot think straight. I also cannot bring myself to do basic tasks it’s odd I have a sense of impeding doom and I don’t know if I’m imagining it or what to do. There is no solid evidence or anything big, but I feel frightened like I’ve never felt before. I don’t know why because this kid seems well adjusted and has friends and is in a great post grad program in a specific field (don’t want to name it) that requires a lot of intelligence.

By the way, I ended it with him today.

Are my fears justified? Is there a chance something is up or am I imagining it?

TL;DR : Rehomed an animal I was fostering to a guy who I think may have known it was me from the start, now am worried he was stalking me before and still might be

Submitted October 27, 2020 at 12:08AM by Acrobatic_Front3309 https://ift.tt/34wShlF