This is a very complicated break up. To say the least.
About 3 weeks ago my (Ex) girlfriend and I had a pretty big fight and she decided that it would be best if we broke up. It all stemmed from 3 days prior when I found out that she had removed all of my female coworkers off of my social media without my knowledge or consent. I won’t go into details as that could be a whole other post of its own. It all happened so fast that night that I grabbed some things from her house and went home. Over the next few days we were still texting and being very intimate like we were still together. We have taken a break once before this a few months prior for a similar reason, but once we calmed down we realized that we really wanted to stay together and work our issues out and grow together. So I wasn’t too worried at this point. I figured we would calm down and talk all of our personal issues out and get back together.
But that didn’t happen. On the third day she started to seem very distant. Started not responding to our messages but still telling me she loved me and wanted to have a future with me an what not.
We’ve at this point had plans to go to the pumpkin patch and a variety of other couple activities we still wanted to do together since we loved each other. And so a few nights later she was having some issues with management at her job and she ended up coming over and staying the night at my place. We hadn’t really seen each other for a number of nights now so it was incredible to be in each other’s arms again. We talked and promised to never give up on each other and to work on ourselves for our future together. She came over again the next night and the following morning we ended up going to the pumpkin patch. And it was amazing. Like everything was back to normal. She would look at me and promise that she wasn’t ever going to give up on us and that she loved me beyond anything in the world, which I of course reciprocated.
But a few days later everything changed again. She seemed to become distant and would hardly contact me. I had left some shoes at her house and she brought them over and when she did she had told me that we probably shouldn’t be sleeping together anymore. And that she went on a date with someone and was really happy. This of course destroyed me. I tried asking why or how but she didn’t go into too much detail. So she packed all her things and left. Over the next few days she would still message me and tell me how much she loved me and so I kept clinging on to the hope for our future.
And after a few days of emotional pain and missing work. I decided that I would download bumble and test the waters. Third person I see: her. I found it a little funny but it also obviously hurt me. Especially because half of her pictures were ones that I took. So I swiped right. And the next morning we had matched. We talked for a while and after her reassurance that she still loved me and wanted a future with me we decided to grab some coffee. And seeing her was a bit emotional. We had a great time. And then she admitted to sleeping with someone. She had been driving downtown 50 miles to sleep with someone for the last 2 nights. It was devastating. And meanwhile she still kept on telling me that she loved me and needed time. And still wanted to marry me and what not. That night she went to a party and was posting all kinds of shit way out of character for her. Pole dancing and drunk dancing in a crowd at a party.
So the next night after seeing her location and seeing that she was going down to see her hookup I decided that I couldn’t take the pain anymore and unfollowed her off of all social media. I texted her and told her that I wouldn’t block her number so she could reach me if she ever needed it. She responded with an extremely passive aggressive text, which I didn’t reply to.
And the following night she calls me. She asks me how I’m doing and I say good. She says that she had gone to a party the previous night. And I asked “how was it?”
Her reply:
“I had a foursome!”
I was shocked and confused and more than anything angry. Did she call to make me angry? Did she call because she can’t get over losing me? Why the fuck would you call your ex and tell them that. Especially when the wound is still so fresh. So she came by my place that night and we talked in her car for a long time. She kept telling me she loves me and how we are single and allowed to do anything we want and how she thinks that IM the one stringing her along. After getting angry and having enough I just left the car and went inside. I feel like a complete empty shell of myself. All my self esteem gone, confidence gone. Meanwhile this girl is doing whatever the fuck she wants while having me in her back pocket. And I’m hopeless because regardless of everything I still love her.
TL;DR girlfriend and I of two years broke up. She’s been sleeping around while assuring me that she loves me. I don’t know what to do
Submitted October 26, 2020 at 01:04PM by CakeFactor https://ift.tt/2HDXUFN
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