We’ve been dating (M/F 28) for a year and live together. I really love him and want a future with him. We’ve talked marriage and kids. We’re both career oriented and in a good spot in our lives.
One glaring issue though is his driving. I brought it up about 3 months in. He’s very erratic and impatient while driving. We live in a crazy city and there’s lots of variables - cyclists, pedestrians, moving trucks, anything you can think of.
The habits that bother me the most. He tails almost every car, leaving less than a foot in between. If we needed to emergency slam our brakes we’d hit another car easily. He’ll honk at a car if a light turns green and they don’t move within 3 seconds. He weaves in and out of lanes to avoid turning cars, which again goes back to a patience thing.
I’ve had 3 talks with him and told him it’s a dealbreaker for me. I feel like I’m going to get hurt or die when I’m in the car and we’re NEVER in a rush so it’s inexcusable. I also was blunt and told him it’s selfish that he isn’t thinking about everyone else around him. And that I wouldn’t have kids with someone who drives that way.
He has improved in small ways. He uses his blinker now, albeit when he’s turning. He’s driving a bit slower, though speed isn’t the issue for me. I think you can drive a bit above the speed limit safely.
I told him I’m at the end of my rope and he needs to do something ASAP. He seems more open to it but still somewhat stubborn so I’m not sure change will happen. I suggested a safe driving course online or some sort of video class. Any other tips? I know people will say break up which is on the table at this point if things don’t change but any other solutions would be helpful.
TL;DR boyfriend drives erratically for no reason and I can’t handle it. Any success stories of people who’ve improved?
Submitted September 01, 2020 at 11:53AM by __yahhh https://ift.tt/2EYvgxn
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