She's been dating this guy [30M] for a little over 6 months now, and their relationship started off incredibly fast paced. They met each other's parents in the first week, and then shortly after moved into an AirBnB together for 4 months.
During this time I hardly heard from her. I didn't really question it because she just seemed excited about her new relationship but now I'm starting to worry she's being isolated by this guy. She has told me that he gets upset when I'm even mentioned, and that she's been having panic attacks unless she's near him (she's never had anxiety issues before). On top of that, she's turned on location tracking for all her apps, a feature which she has told me time and time again that she hates with a passion.
I mentioned that I was worried that she might be isolating, and she told me that she just "feels like people would rather spend their time with someone else", and "people are untrustworthy and dishonest". This is so out of character for her it's not even funny. This is a girl who just comes over unannounced (aside from a quick message she's on her way) when she's bored.
Also, every time she hangs out with me or our other mutual friend, her boyfriend texts her non-stop, and often calls her telling her something that makes her come hang out with him instead ("I bought you food", "I hurt my wrist at work" -- she went to go cook food for him??, etc.)
The more I think about it the more it reminds me of my own past experience with an abuser and now I'm freaking out a bit. I know I shouldn't just outright tell her my suspicions and should be gentle, but other than that how should I approach this?
TLDR: Friend's boyfriend is showing abusive red flags, what should I do?
Submitted September 01, 2020 at 03:09PM by ZingZah https://ift.tt/2EQBFez
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