Right now I’m working as a receptionist at a law firm. I know it’s not the most respect-worthy job by any means, but I work hard and make an honest living. That’s what I’ve always done as I’ve been paying my way through college for the past 5 years. I’ve worked various retail/customer service type jobs at minimum wage to save money for tuition. Since I don’t have a degree, these kinds of jobs are the only ones I can really get, plus they offer me flexibility while I’m in school. I’ve been going to college on-and-off, and I should be done with my bachelors within year and a half.
My SO, on the other hand, graduated at the more normal age of 22 with his bachelors, and has been working a high-paying job in his field ever since. When we met, I was working at a department store. He made a couple comments back then about how it must have made me uncomfortable to be with someone who was so much farther along in life than I was. It actually didn’t, and still doesn’t because 1) everyone is on their own journey in life and 2) he’s slightly older than me anyway so he would’ve most likely always been ahead of me.
Two years ago, I got my current job as receptionist at the law firm. I was actually pretty excited and proud of myself as this is my first non-retail job. I’ve gotten to learn lots of new skills and been able to see what working in a professional office is like. Unfortunately, my SO has made quite a few comments about my job. Some of them I don’t consider that bad like joking about how I’m the hot receptionist. A few times, though, he’s made some comments that make me feel kind of bad like when I tell him I was helping out with the paralegals work. He’s said “I can’t believe they would have the receptionist helping with that kind of work. You’re not qualified to do that.” The thing is, the work I’m helping with is mostly prepping standard legal documents that get double and triple checked by both the paralegal and the attorney. While I kind of understand his concerns, I feel like it’s unnecessary and rude to say things like that. Also, once when my younger cousin got his first job out of college, I joked that it was unfair that he was making so much money. My boyfriend snapped at me and said “well, that’s what happens when you graduate college.” I was clearly only joking and I’m very proud of my cousin, so I felt this kind of reaction was unjustified.
I don’t know if I’m just being too sensitive, or if my SO is being kind of a jerk.
Tdlr; my SO has made comments that indicate he doesn’t respect my job or lack of college degree. I can’t tell if I’m just being too sensitive.
Submitted March 06, 2020 at 12:44PM by laurb92 https://ift.tt/32YbNFc
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