I [22M] just broke up with my girlfriend [22F] of 5 years and I can't seem to shake off this feeling of resentment.

Recently like 3 weeks I broke up with my girlfriend. We were great together until I felt like the love was getting one sided. I asked her if she was satisfied with our relationship and knowing her I had to pry the answer from her because she keeps beating around the bush. I finally got my answer and turns out she was falling out of love for sometime and only got worse within the last 3 months and she says even had some doubts in the back of her mind throughout the year. She now loves me as just a friend and that can't fly especially since I wanted a serious romantic relationship.

We eventually broke up on good terms saying we can still be friends. We still text each other and lately she has been trying to check up on how I feel. This has currently made me realize a new emotion towards her. I feel a bit of hate or resentment. She never gave a good reason for falling out of love and I never did expect one. It sort of happens and I accept that, but I still can't shake off this resentment. Looking back she was too passive in her life and didn't give me the love I wanted. I feel betrayed and hurt especially when she checks on me as if she hasn't done anything wrong to me. I don't like to feel like I resent her or hate her because I did enjoy the good times. Then why do I feel like this?

Tldr: just broke up because girlfriend that fell out of love and didn't tell me for 3 months and had doubts for a year about it. Why do I feel resentful and what can I do to stop it?

Submitted September 24, 2019 at 07:25AM by MadPaneraWorker https://ift.tt/2ly8Eut