Background: i have a chronic health condition. Sleeping is important to maintaining my health, not to mention I have a job and school. He has a retail job & never finished college, so he doesn't have to worry about having a lifestyle where he drinks beer and stays up until 3 am.
He does this every night. He drinks beer, and stays up until 3 am watching tv, whenever I stay over his apartment (only a couple nights a week now because of this problem..). I've talked to him MULTIPLE times about how this is not a lifestyle i can afford to have. He agrees, apologizes, and says he'll work on better habits, but its been months and nothing changes. The apartment is a small loft, so I can't just go into a bedroom alone to fall asleep first. And even if I could, I don't want to fall asleep alone every night. It makes me feel undesired since we barely even have sex. I'd rather just sleep in my own room in my own place if that's the case.
I'm starting to snap, and iI'm considering breaking up with him because he is becoming too much of a stressor, and I just feel trapped being in a small apartment with someone who is drinking beer and watching cartoons all night long. Typing this out makes me wonder why I've stayed so long in the first place, but he does have redeeming qualities. He is kind, funny, and intelligent. We have a great time when we're out, and have good conversations. I know that he really does care about me and love me.
However, whenever I'm gone for work (frequently), I'll come back, and I'll want to have sex because we haven't in a while, but he makes no effort. When I finally come home he'd rather just watch tv than be intimate. We usually have sex once every 2 weeks, and now it's ruining my self esteem. It feels like the tipping point. Any advice & input would be great.
TL:DR: Boyfriend stays up until 3 am drinking and watching TV, despite my wishes to go to sleep earlier and have a healthier routine. Even after I've been away for work, he would still rather opt for watching cartoons over having sex on top of that, which has been a tipping point lately. Considering breaking up with him. Advice appreciated.
Submitted September 24, 2019 at 01:01PM by notsureifishould76 https://ift.tt/2ltnp1t
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