Hi reddit.
I am a single mom of 3 kids, the middle of which is the topic of this post. My middle kid, I'm going to call her MK, is smart, funny, driven, was working a full time job and going to college to pursue her dream of working in the medical field.
About 6 months ago MK met a guy at work and they started talking, which then turned into dating, then into a full blown relationship. Around the same time that they started actually dating, MK started acting different. I understand that shes maturing and growing and all that but this is something else. She started coming home high, stating that it's marijuana only. Marijuana is legal in my state so that's one thing, but her actions arent consistent with getting high.
She comes home sometimes acting like she's had about 5 Redbulls. She cleans the house, makes dinner, sings, acts like she's got more energy than PG&E, all after a full days work.
Other days, she comes home and acts like she hasn't slept in weeks. She falls asleep and I can't wake her up to eat or to do anything. she'll sleep about 12-14 hours at a time and still act tired.
She has started lying about the stupidest things. From work dates to who she talks to on the phone, to scenarios that are completely fabricated. I don't understand and I am smart enough to know her telltale signs when she's lying but there isn't a reason for it.
She's lost a lot of weight and looks tired all the time. She's always been pretty expressive but lately she's just emotionless except for anger. She lashes out at everyone now, especially me.
She's always been concerned about her future and career and things like credit, but lately she's paying for all of this guy's expenses and she's broke. Her bank sends late notices and her credit cards are not being paid. But she buys him gas and food and pays for hotel rooms so they can stay together. He's a father of 3 and super shady and is not allowed at my house.
She's super protective of him and any time I ask a question about him it ends in her becoming angry and leaving.
Last week she came home after midnight after being with him. She had something, I'm not sure what it was, but she kept trying to hide it and she was just off the wall. I know that's a very technical term but she was jittery and angry and eventually hit me and her younger sibling after an argument. She left with him after it was over, and has now moved out.
She came back this week but only to ask for money.
She is having multiple prepaid cards...Netspend and Green dot, sent to the house. I don't know what for.
I love my kid and just want to make sure she's ok. My house isn't super strict, there is a midnight curfew but even that is flexible, but other than that there isn't much that she has to do. She is responsible for her phone bill and helps with groceries but there isn't pressure to succeed or super heavy restrictions on her. I am worried that I am missing something and want to help but don't know how or what to do.
Help please. What am I missing?
tl;dr: I am worried that my kids behavior is indicative of mental problems or drug use but I am not sure. Afraid of overreacting and pushing her further away.
Submitted May 03, 2019 at 09:45AM by imalfandieatcats http://bit.ly/2UTTwDi
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