Me 34(m) went through wife's phone 33(f) and confirmed suspicion of cheating. Now our 14 years together are down the drain.

So today me 34(m) the curiosity got the best of me I went through my wife's phone (33) and saw some pictures of another man, apoun searching further I found the evidence it was one of her Co workers. Apparently it probably started around February with her sleeping with him twice at a motel, and she kept in contact with him up until recently, texting him while she was out with me telling him she wants to see him but feels guilty ya know the whole works telling him she loves him and they would have good looking kids.

Apperently she hasn't been in love with me since she caught me sending innappropiate texts to some ramdom chick I met online 8 years ago and that this whole time she's had to put on a face for the kids and we've been together for 14 years . I thought we were doing fine, we had arguments yeah and sometimes they would get bad with her saying she wants to leave and doesn't love me but I guess my stupidity never really took it seriously and we would be fine afterwards. She says she feel embarrassed of how things went down and that she's had to make face this whole time and that the other guy is nothing to her and that she has a problem truly loving anyone aside from our kids, that she needs to do her self and figure her self out, I keep asking her if she loves the other guy and tells me no and that it was only twice but she doesn't know why she did and continue to have contact with him, and that I should have just kept quite and to myself about what I found just like she did for me years ago.

So now here I am and I don't know what to do, for now we decided to stay in the same household and help each other out financially which we both can't afford to move to other places and make it work for both the kids.

TL;DR wife cheated twice still kept in contact with guy even today possibly. Said she fell out of love from an incident 8 years ago and has just kept face for the kids, said he didn't mean anything and can't love or get attached to anyone aside from, kids/mom/grandma and needs to figure out whats wrong with her and needs to work on her self. We agreed to stay in same household to help each other out until I can move out. Please tell me if the staying in the same house is a bad idea and if their is any glimmer of hope I do truly love her.

Submitted May 06, 2019 at 06:56AM by pyron562 http://bit.ly/2LsCGvZ