I [51/M] wanted to go out with my GF [46/F] today but she said she was busy; just ran into her in a nightclub.

TL;DR: My GF and I haven’t seen much of each other lately; we had an opportunity to spend sometime together this weekend and she said she was busy. Decided to go out by myself and ran into her.

First some background; my GF and I have been dating for 10 months now and due to the fact that we both have small children and share custody with our exes we don’t see each other often (like once or at the most twice a week).

That’s never been a problem because for both of us our kids are a priority and we accepted that. We made it work and we also started going out with our kids and they get along well.

A few weeks ago my girlfriend was told that she was going to be laid off and she told me that she needed to focus on finding a new job and couldn’t see me as often.

I offered to help her with her job search, but she said it was not helpful and that it was something she needed to do herself (I posted on this sub about that, so check my post history if you want some background on that).

About three weeks ago she found a new job and she starts next week; I did not ask if we could go back to see each other regularly, as she told me that she had a lot of reading to do for her new position. I was hoping that as we had a long holiday weekend and our kids are spending it with our exes (a rare occurrence) that we would spend some time together.

We went out during the day yesterday and I asked her if we could catch a movie or dinner, but she said she had some reading to do. I took her to her house (her mom lives with her) and we chatted for a while and then I went home.

She texted me that maybe we could watch a movie or something (I didn’t respond as I was sleeping already); today I texted her and asked her if we could see each other today and she replied that she still had some material that she needed to go through.

So I decided to go out dancing (we’re both into ballroom dancing) by myself, which is a common occurrence for both when one of us is busy with the kids. To my surprise my GF is already there with her girlfriends.

I act cool and wave at her and sit at the bar; she comes and says hello and she tells me that so and so is with her and we both behave like nothing is happening but to be honest spending the night there is very awkward as all I can think is that she couldn’t find time to go out with me but she went out with her friends.

Why not tell me that instead of “I’m busy”? So I left. I got a text from here asking me where I was, to which I did not respond. So my question is, what am I facing here?

When she told me that she couldn’t see me because she wanted to focus on her job hunt my first reaction was “we’re in this together and I want to help”; she and this sub told me that it was better if I gave her some space and I took the advice.

Now this and I’m thinking that maybe she wants to move on if we’re at the point that she can’t be honest with me when she prefers to hang out with her friends and not me.

Am I overreacting? Should I let this slide? Or is it time to have a serious talk with my GF?

Submitted May 26, 2019 at 07:47PM by HCMXero http://bit.ly/2XeGX7K