UPDATE: Former friend wants to rekindle our friendship after suffering a bereavement- I’m reluctant

Original post

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/104yqab/former_friend_wants_to_rekindle_our_friendship/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

UPDATE:

I (27F) was blown away by all your advice and responses so I just wanted to update you all- I followed the advice of the majority on here and let my former friend (23F) down as gently as possible.

I told her how sorry I am for her loss and that I can’t imagine how hard things are for her but I couldn’t see us going back to the way we were. I said how a lot of hurtful stuff went on and how I don’t think I can offer the type of support she needs at this point in time.

She actually reacted much better than expected and wished me good luck with everything. Which broke my heart a bit as, despite the difficulties, we did have some great times too. But I know deep down it was toxic- someone mentioned being an ‘emotional sponge’ which was super accurate lol. I am one. I do tend to put other’s feelings ahead of my own because I know how it feels to feel low and don’t want anyone else to feel that way.

Thank you all so much for all the advice and responses, I’m honestly blown away by how many I got. I’m trying so hard to get better at setting boundaries and sticking up for myself.. it’s hard due to my experiences growing up but today was a start at least. Thank you all again, I definitely feel like I’ve made the right decision despite it being a hard one.

TL;DR: I followed the advice given on here and ended the friendship in question.

Submitted January 08, 2023 at 11:55PM by halfgaelichalfgarlic https://ift.tt/Vm9paDP