My boyfriend (26m) said some women are more objectively attractive than me. I (27f) packed my bags and left, am I overreacting?

We've been together for a year. We got back home from his sister's wedding. I was already feeling off because I've been having eye allergies and my eyes were swollen and looked terrible so I felt self conscious

He was drunk and being '"honest". We were taking about his porn use. He said he likes to watch it once a week. Then he said something about those women being objectively more beautiful than me, but he doesn't get turned on because he loves me so much, he said he used to watch porn everyday when he was single and now he only watches it once a week. I'm very insecure and have extreme self esteem issues. This just tipped me over the edge. I got angry, we got into a fight, and I packed my bags and left. We just came back from a wedding where there were lots of beautiful women, my insecurity about how I looked and his statement, it just made everything so much worse. If it was any other day, I don't think I would've cared.

I'm at my mum's house and he thinks I'm overreacting and wants to make things work. I don't know why but this has really bothered me. I've been in relationships before and they never said anything like that. I can't wrap my head around why it bothered me so much but I don't want to even look at him or talk to him, I feel disgusted and angry and I feel used.

He thinks I'm being narcisstic and arrogant, I understand why he thinks that but I don't know. I just don't like what he said, I know I'm not the most beautiful woman in the world, but I feel like my partner that loves me should think so, just like I think that about him. Im not ugly, and I believe I would be considered objectively attractive, which almost makes it worse? Because it's like he's intentionally trying to bring me down or something.

I don't even care about other men, it doesn't phase me at all even if they're "objectively more attractive" I literally don't even think about it. Even if I do, it's so insignificant that I don't even feel the need to bring it up. That's why this has bothered me so much. Because he brought it up, why? Why does it even matter to tell me? I just want to know what other people think as I'm confused if I'm overreacting by leaving the relationship which he wants to try to make work.

Tl;dr: my boyfriend told me he thinks some women are more objectively attractive than me, but he doesn't care. We got into a fight, I packed my bags and left. He doesn't understand why and thinks I'm overreacting and that I'm being narcissistic for caring so much about such an insignificant statement. Am I overreacting?

Submitted January 22, 2023 at 12:16AM by blahx20 https://ift.tt/PXYCvQ4