My wife (37F) and I (37M) don't have a ton of friends. We're fairly introverted, especially my wife, and have traditionally kept to ourselves. Over the last year, though, we've put a lot of effort into being more social and spending more time with friends. There are a few couples in particular who we've had over for dinner or met up with. We've really enjoyed getting to know these people better and just hanging out with them.
The problem is that I am always the person to set everything up. None of these couples ever contact us to make plans. They've never invited us to their homes despite us having all them over at different times. When plans have fallen through because of COVID, I am the one who needs to start the conversation about picking a new date. If we didn't put the effort it, we would never spend time with others.
We're getting pretty frustrated. It's taken us a long time to make friends with other couples, but it feels like they aren't as interested in the friendships as we are. It feels like people just don't enjoy spending time with us. And we just don't have the time and energy to go out and try to find new friends. It is very lonely.
Does anyone have any thoughts on how we deal with not having friends who want to put effort into spending time with us?
TL;DR Married couple wants to spend more time with other couples, but they never initiate plans with us.
Submitted January 13, 2023 at 07:10PM by ltl1109 https://ift.tt/dMiKwTN
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