Should I(32f) call it quits for good with my (32M) s/o? He keeps quitting jobs every time he gets one. Most recently he quit right before the holidays. I'm sick of being forced into this position and I feel like hendoesnt gaf about putting me in this position.

TL;DR Should I(32f) call it quits for good with my (32M) s/o? He keeps quitting jobs every time he gets one. Most recently he quit right before the holidays. I'm sick of being forced into this position and I feel like hendoesnt gaf about putting me in this position.

I've (32 fm) been with my s/o(32 m) for years. First we were together for 8 years, broke up for a year and now we're back together(it'll be a year in a couple of months). Our kid just started kindergarten this year. The reason we broke up the first time is because he wouldn't hold a job. I basically carried the family financially most of the time.

Not to mention, cooking, keeping up with appointments, and regular house duties. There have been 2 times since we've been together that I have not been employed. And each time it was only about a month or 2. He would get mad at me and say I'm nagging when I would complain about being broke and how the bills ate up all my money. He'd say just because we are broke doesn't mean we have to harbor on it and make the days bad.

It was easy for him to say that because he wasn't the one looking at the finances. He wasn't the one having to call around asking our parents and siblings for money or groceries. Once we broke up, my money stretched further. I was able to live comfortably and provide for myself and our child when she was with me(he would have her 2 weeks of each month when we broke up). Even after we broke up he continued to struggle with employment and i ended up paying his rent a few times(I know, stupid right? Lmfao) and buying him groceries.

While also still keeping my house and groceries afloat. He said he wanted to get back together and i told him the only way i would is if he held a job for a year and showed me a first and last stub to prove it because I can't keep taking on the financial weight of a whole family. Which he did. So after that year we got back together. It's been amazing, but then, suddenly right before the holidays, he just quit his job. He says he didn't like it so he quit.

At this point I'm pretty fucking fed up. I feel like he's too comfortable forcing me into a position where im the sole responsible adult making money and keeping the family aloat. How the fuck can I get it through his head this shit is dead? It's like i know if I don't work my child won't have clothes, food, a way to her appts or extracurricular. I will do anything to make sure my family is good and i feel like that gets taken advantage of and im frustrated.

I just don't understand how he can walk away from jobs knowing we need him. Knowing we don't get any assistance because we dont qualify for any. It's like if he at least found a job before he left that one, this wouldn't be an issue. But here I am again, in the same fucking spot I was in before. How can I express this to him? Clearly I didn't make myself clear or something. I can't believe he really held this job that whole year just to quit once we got back together. And I'll also throw in there that I'm fucking tired of sitting in the house. Ive told him numerous times i wamna go on dates amd go have fun but we mever have money because hes always broke and if ibcant pay for iur dates then we dont go. So I end up in the house every weekend because we never go anywhere because he never has money and if I wanna do a date I have to pay for it since he's always broke. And I refuse to do that. He knows I'm a social person and that i like to dress up and look good and go out. He always makes comments on my body and how im sexy but never makes an effort to ever take me on a date, or even give me the opportunity to fucking get dressed up. I hate it here. His excuse is always he has no money. Sick his this broke shit.

Submitted January 21, 2023 at 02:14AM by ThatOneWeirdGirl- https://ift.tt/NyjUesq