I (26M) had been in a relationship for about 1.5 years with who I thought was the person(27F) I was going to marry. She told me that I was the only one for her, and that she wanted me to have her kids one day. The day we met, we both felt like we had known each other forever. I loved her family, and they loved me back. She was 27, and I was the only guy she had ever introduced to her family. She was my best friend.
She was very close to her entire family, especially her mother. Her mother came down with Covid, and was in the ICU battling for several months. Unfortunately she passed away due to complications from the virus.
My partner was heartbroken. She told me that she tends to get distant from people when she is grieving. She would call me on the phone crying and say, “please don’t let me lose us”. She probably said this to me 50 times. I tried my best to comfort her, and be there for her and her family. I was constantly around them and trying my best to support them in any way I could.
A few months went by, and my partners grief hadn’t gotten any better. She would still have sleepless nights crying over the loss of her mother. She ended up calling it quits on our relationship. When I asked if I did anything wrong, she said no, and that I was a fantastic partner (I was so confused when she said this). I said that although I was hurt, I would respect her decision. I told her to let me know if she needed anything, and I stopped communicating with her. We’ve gone 3 months without talking. Although not being in communication with her brings me pain every day, I’m trying my best to give her the space she said she wanted.
Over this period of no contact, I’ve gotten a higher paying job, started working out 6 days a week, and started dating other people. I’ve tried dating about 10 other people, but nothing seems to compare to the love I once had. I feel bad, I usually go on a few dates with girls and then have to explain to them the emotions I’m feeling and that I’m not over my ex.
I’ve seen similar threads, but always tend to see mixed answers. Seems to be a matter of chasing vs. letting go of love.
Do I contact my ex? If so, what do I even say? I miss her, but ultimately want what’s best for her. Even if that means pain for myself. Any help/input would be greatly appreciated.
TLDR; Grieving girlfriend breaks up with me, not sure on next steps.
Submitted March 10, 2022 at 11:24PM by Alarming_Sundae3778 https://ift.tt/bGKZWgI
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