So, as the title says, my view of my own mother has been changing a lot since my now 3 month old son was born. My mom has always been an independent woman who worked hard all her life in engineering, and I am very thankful for her raising me and my sister when my dad asked for divorce and later got broke. I always had my mom as my rock, but that has been changing lately.
I was in a relationship before where I had a stepdaughter, and she already treated her weird, which the cause for many arguments over the years. Example: she was never the kind of mom to worry about having a spotless house, meaning that we could play as kids should. But with my stepdaughter she was extremelly controlling of what she could do, always wipping after her footsteps and complaining she was a spoiled girl because she would forget to take her shoes off before sitting on the couch. This came to a point where my stepdaughter felt really uncomfortable to be with her, and so she wasn't anymore.
I always thought that was maybe because she wasn't my "blood", or some stupid boomer idea like that (which she voiced by the way). Well but now I remarried and recently had a kid, and all that attitude came back.
First thing that rubbed me the wrong way was that she insisted on me, my wife and newborn son of only a week old to spend Xmas at her house, because "she had gone through the ordeal of cooking for us", and she felt very much offended we declined. We asked if she could maybe come to our house, but since we were at the hospital we were "a covid hazard". Funny enough, a week later she was at a new years party...
As of lately, she started to say things like "you guys should let him get used to the stroller like we used to do in my days", meaning she thinks we're idiots to hold our baby in our arms to comfort him. I have zero memories of her just letting me or my sister cry it out, so where the heck is this coming from? She also seems obsessed with my wife going "back" to work, meddling in a arrangement that is working just fine for us. She seems to be very concerned with me carrying a load, or worse, being manipulated by an evil woman who will make me work myself to death AND have me take care of my baby. I just find grossly sexist. By the way, my wife does work in a freelance job, which is awesome because she doesn't need to leave the house and can work when she can.
The last straw was yesterday, when I kindly asked to not touch the baby's hand since he was starting to put it in his mouth, and we're concerned not only with covid but other diseases as well, since he's not fully vaccinated. So she gets offended and says with great sarcasm: "well maybe you guys should wear a mask around him too". Like WTF? What am I missing here? I don't intend to cut her out of our lives, but it's just really depressing to see a role model regress like this. Wasn't she supposed to be happy with a grandchild?
TL;DR - My mom started acting out like a kid when my own child was born, not really happy with having a granchild and seems to be competting for attention.
Submitted March 14, 2022 at 03:17PM by tubainadrunk https://ift.tt/4oE5vNa
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