I am 25 and my bf (30s) just moved into my apartment. I was okay with him focusing on school and not paying rent because he was in a difficult situation and to be honest I have it covered. I said he could use my car for errands when he first moved in, and he has never once used it for any purpose other than to go to the casino. Like at least 14 times in a month for 6+ hours. At times, he's lied to me and said that they "took his ID and lost it" and then shown up at 2 am after it closed. We talked about how I don't care about the behavior, only the honesty. I don't spend every minute of my day being productive and I don't tell him what to do with his time or money. I mean obviously by the way I write this, I don't like that he goes to the casino.
So yesterday, I got home from class and he told me he has a job interview and has errands. I had plans with a friend but this seemed positive so I cancelled my plans. He leaves, and an hour passes before I look at my starlink account. I had a strong suspicion he was lying to me and was actually at the casino because he left wearing a hoodie with his government check. He was at the casino. I called him twice and he called me back an hour later. I said I knew that he was currently fucking me over and that I wanted my car back. He said I was such a bitch and that he just went before his other stuff and that he was going right now. He didn't leave the casino and didn't answer my calls until 6:00 when he said "I'm so sorry I fucked up" and came home. 6 hours total. I literally almost Ubered to get my car.
I mean this is like part 15 of car drama. I don't want to be his mother and give him consequences, but it kind of seems like I shouldn't let him take my car anymore lmfao. I never would even let anybody take my car if I couldn't see where it was so I could get it back. He can Uber to the casino if he wants to go. He should honestly probably leave my house, but there are some other things going on right now. He's tried to tell me that other fights we've had made him do this, but I'm not stupid enough to believe that. He shaved his face and told me how nervous he was for his interview, then went straight to the casino. I'm worried that this kind of behavior means that he's capable of so much more than that, and this is bad enough. I'm going to kick him out right? I just found out that I'm pregnant and am struggling with all of the options with no support except his. I don't know how much that's related to this situation except that it's unexpected and therefore tough to deal with. He doesn't feel like he has any control in that situation, but we've listened to each other's opinion on every option. He's not cut out of the decision process whatsoever. I'm not going to throw him into parenthood and we're looking at adoption places.
I understand how dumb I am. I think I'm too deep into something that was supposed to be fun and casual and is now a nightmare.
TLDR: my boyfriend (30s) told me he was going to a job interview so I cancelled my (25) plans only to starlink my car and see it at the casino.
Submitted March 11, 2022 at 04:26AM by throwaway666667970 https://ift.tt/mjwxhnF
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