For some background: Bf and I have been together for 5 years, living together for 3. Started dating at the end of college. After graduation got jobs in a new city and moved into apartment together. This is both of our first long term/serious relationship.
Overall I think our relationship has been really healthy. We never fight, enjoy each other’s company, go on trips together, etc. Comments from ppl on both sides have always been along the lines of saying we have a great relationship.
Leading up to my bf asking for a break I have noticed him becoming more distant. Granted we were together 24/7 throughout the pandemic. But he’s been putting a lot more energy into his hobbies, working out, and forming friendships/being social (none of which we’ve been able to do since moving here). And overall just talking to me less, always sitting on his laptop/phone when we used to cook dinner together or watch movies/tv.
Now for “the break”. It sort of came out of nowhere, I know I mentioned him becoming for distant but I never expected this. He just came out and said we should take a break. His reasoning was along the lines of us both needing to “learn to become our own people”. He mentioned how he has never been on his own, throughout college he lived home then immediately moved in with me. He went on to say before he could think about being together long term he’d have to spend some time alone. I sort of just cut off the conversation at this point because I need time to process.
Anyone have any thoughts here? Anyone ever been in this position before?
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TL;DR boyfriend wants alone time and to learn to “become our own people”. How should I handle boyfriend asking for a break? What would you think of this?
Submitted March 21, 2022 at 08:29PM by OkBet7335 https://ift.tt/wmgQN8F
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