Did I just get abandoned?

Hoping the world might be able to give me a little perspective on this. I am American [35F] and my husband is Australian [32M]. We met in 2018 and got married in 2020 and then got separated because of the Australian border patrol for 4 months in 2020. In November I moved over to Australia full-time and have been here ever since. 

In 2020 he started having a bad bout of depression and while I was out of the country started drinking heavily to deal with anxiety and depression. He was doing better while we were together but he went to London for a work trip on 1 February. He was expecting to be back after 6 weeks but canceled his trip back and extended his stay in London through July 1st. He owns his company so he makes the rules on if he comes or goes. He's been drinking a lot in London and has stopped speaking to me over the phone about 2 weeks ago. He responds via text message but it's stiff and often angry, essentially is just saying I'm wasting my time with him and he's not interested in having a family but hasn't actually said he doesn't want to be with me, just that he thinks it will be years before he can be a good partner. He's still speaking with his mother and friends and it seems like he's just taking out all of his stress and frustrations on me because I'm the only one that doesn't work for him or with him. I'm trying not to think he's just checked himself out of the marriage for now 5 months but I really can't be sure and on top of that, I can't be sure a marriage can survive that.

My family is still in the US and while his family is welcoming, the mother is the only one that checks on me. I'm worried I will panic my family if I tell them everything that's going on. I have set myself up with a counselor so I have someone who's not related to him to talk to but feeling very alone and confused here. 

TLDR - By taking a 5-month work trip (his decision) and breaking all conversations except via WhatsApp is my husband pulling the plug on our marriage? Knowing he's depressed and drinking how do I know if he's just feeling guilty or low or if he really wants it to end?

Submitted March 16, 2022 at 12:18AM by Alarmed_Abroad_719 https://ift.tt/iK54OWj