This past week, I (f27) went on my 4th date with a guy (32m) I'd met through an online dating app a few weeks ago. We have fun together, share similar values, and seem to mostly get along well, but I couldn't shake the feeling that something was off. He's physically attractive and 95% of the conversation is great but something about him makes me uncomfortable. During the last two dates, he not only wanted an idea of my schedule, but wanted to know exactly when I was working. "Oh, you want to know my schedule so we can hang out after...?" I asked because I thought he was trying to make plans. Turned out the answer was no; he just wanted to "hang out sometime soon", which makes his questions about my schedule seem irrelevant. Why would any normal person NEED to know the exact start/end times of your shift?
Today he asked me via text, 3 different times, what I'd done this weekend. He's been getting more and more clingy and controlling, so I don't want to tell him every detail. I let him know I'd had a nice relaxing weekend, enjoyed the weather, and asked about what he'd been up to--pretty standard. He'd pushed me about which friends I'd hung out with; I ignored the question and instead asked him something about what he'd been up to.
Next thing I know, he's passive aggressively accusing me of keeping secrets about my weekend. Best case scenario is that he's just insecure, and worst case, he's manipulative and controlling. I don't plan on finding out!
What's the best way to cut him off in a way I can let him know his behavior crossed a line while also keeping myself safe?
TL;DR guy I recently started dating is fixated on my shift start/end times and harasses me about how I spend my time--best way to exit the situation safely?
Submitted March 13, 2022 at 10:10PM by bobmcglob https://ift.tt/D40qhkG
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