My partner (33 yo M) spends hours every day talking to his mother and brother on the phone. It is so excessive that I often feel lonely. My partner’s mother lives in another country, and she is divorced.
Practically every day, when I come home from work, my partner is on the phone with his mother and most often his brother joins them. I can’t even ask how his day was or have any kind of conversation. I end up being by myself, watching television, reading a book etc. while he is on this marathon telephone conversation. They speak a language I can’t understand. When he finishes, it’s most often so late that we have very little time left before I got to go to sleep.
This way, we have very little time together, and if I need to speak to him about something, I must shout over his conversation and he answers with one word sentences, clearly trying to tell me that I’m interrupting him and that nothing I say can be as important as the conversation he is having with his family members. He always picks up their calls, even if we’re in the middle of a meal or watching a film or something. I must then wait till he finishes the call, which can take a long time.
My partner has said that his mother is lonely, and that it is very important that he speaks with her.
But I often feel very lonely too, and I’ve asked if he could spend some time with me, but thinks I’m selfish if I try to stop him to make those calls (which is not what I’m trying to do). I don’t know, what to do.
TLDR; My partner spends hours on the phone every day with his mother and brother. It is taking a huge amount of our time together. I feel lonely, but my partner thinks he’s doing nothing wrong.
Submitted May 25, 2021 at 02:06PM by s_polaris https://ift.tt/2TkR3GY
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