My boyfriend (24M) thinks it’s okay to see his therapist (34F) outside of session hours - I (25F) disagree

Hello,

My boyfriend took his therapist to pick up her puppy the other day. The total drive was 3 and a half hours, there and back - she paid him for the trip and offered free therapy sessions for the drive.

I felt uncomfortable with him driving her as I don’t think therapists and clients should have relationships outside of their scheduled sessions - I briefly mentioned my discomfort before he left to go pick her up (I found out he was helping her the day before, I was nervous to tell him my concerns). I really mentioned my discomfort when he came back from driving her - I realize this was a mistake, but I didn’t know how to address the issue at the time and I was nervous he wouldn’t take me seriously. I wish I had told him sooner.

I explained that I was nervous about breaking quarantine (we live together and there is a family above us - I have Already been sick once) and that I thought therapists and client relationships should be kept to paid sessions only - he seemed to take me seriously, but then spoke to her and came back to the discussion telling me I was jealous he was with another woman for so long. I got upset and defended myself, but I’m so upset I’m sleeping on the couch tonight.

I’m very confused - I just want him to understand thAt therapist and client relationships should be kept professional. Is there a way to explain this without making him mad? I’m at a loss and wondering if im actually in the wrong here.

TLDR: my partner took this therapist to pick up her new puppy - am I right for thinking this is weird, and how should I properly address it when he thinks he’s done nothing wrong?

Submitted April 25, 2020 at 01:19AM by uglybarnacle94 https://ift.tt/2y1lCXI