Quarantine has forced me and my partner to face the issues between us - 7 years of slowly built up resentment. It hasn’t been easy these last 5 weeks to be locked in together. Just now we had another terrible fight where I was condescending, he was resentful, and it’ll just be another bit of dead weight added to the dead weight scale that we’re dragging along in our lives.
I honestly don’t even know where to begin. All our issues are entangled and it’s not easy to see what is actually going on. In terms of dark horsemen: I’m the contemptuous criticising one, he’s the defensive stonewalling one. We have terrible communication and rarely manage to solve issues between us.
I really don’t want to break up. I think I’d run into the same issues with someone else, and I’m guessing that relationship are just hard most of the time. He’s also expressed not wanting to break up.
What can we do to survive the lockdown and to fix our marriage? We’re so stuck.
TL;DR After 7 years of marriage we (34F and 41M with 1M child) have lots of issues piled up. We want to make it to the next seven years but are really struggling to keep it positive.
Edit: between work and our toddler the Reddit windows are fairly limited, so it might take a while before I’ll be ably to respond to everyone. I’m so grateful for everyone’s advice. Couples Therapy sounds like the way to go and the fact that it’ll have to be over the phone might actually make it easier for us to find the time.
Submitted April 28, 2020 at 02:46AM by furiouslycolorless https://ift.tt/2Yd52Py
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